Hi my son is 17 and autistic. He has pretty extreme episodes of rage where he can be physically violent to members of the family. He also screams and swears and shouts that he hates us. It has been so extreme that twice the police have been involved. He previously only did this behind closed doors but will now do it out in public. The assaults are becoming more extreme and more regular.
The problem is that we have other vulnerable people in the house. His sister is disabled and has seizures and chronic fatigue. My son will attack his sister and she can't fight back. She's living in fear. We've tried to get support from Social Services, Safeguarding and CAMHS but nothing yet.
When I tried to speak with him about it he said that this is a normal part of autism and we should learn to live with it - many autistic people have anger episodes.
I am sympathetic to his own difficulties, but I feel like I'm being gaslit into accepting domestic violence.
Has anyone else experienced this? Is violence in the home common in autistic families as he suggests?
