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Yellow88

Hi all my son has been diagnosed with Autism and ADHD (may this year) and it feels surreal the ADHD was expected on the back of that the doctor said you’d benefit from Autism testing and it’s been illuminating and truth be told I don’t know why I never thought autism prior to testing. Mum guilt is real I go back over how I’ve parented and the times I’ve said things like look at me when I’m speaking and just feel guilt. My son starts school September and I have fear and anxiety about the change that’s to come he’s the most fun filled happiest kid and I guess it’s just a whirl of concern of how do I support him how he needs? knowing what I know now what about my parenting style do I need to change (if anything) ? I’ve not told him he’s autistic should I? My sons going to mainstream school we’ve not got an echp but they seem very sen friendly and we’ve met the sen school person they have all his paperwork I guess I just don’t know what I should be doing right now? 

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  • You are obviously a caring parent, that is the most important thing you can be for your child. I was not diagnosed autistic until I was 59, my daughter, diagnosed the day after me, was 19. We both turned out fine, if with certain autism-related anxiety and sensory difficulties. Parenting that is tailor-made for autistic children is not always of vital importance. The only thing I can suggest is, that if your child tells you of particular difficulties, please believe them, even if they may seem strange or exaggerated to you.

    Starting school can be a rather traumatic event for autistic children, after starting infant school I was selectively mute at school for three months. If you can negotiate a phased start to your child's school life - restricted hours etc. for a few weeks - that may help to make the transition easier.

  • in reply to Martin

    Thank you so much for sharing it really helps listening to their difficulties is a great takeaway for me 

    my biggest concern is my son is going from Nursey to school and he’s really attached to a lady within Nursey when she was on holiday it was a rough week getting him to Nursey he knows he’s going to school but I don’t think he’s clicked he won’t see everyone at Nursey again so I’m not sure if half days will help or if he will figure he only needs to do half days at school potentially I can get it wrong either way 

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  • in reply to Martin

    Thank you so much for sharing it really helps listening to their difficulties is a great takeaway for me 

    my biggest concern is my son is going from Nursey to school and he’s really attached to a lady within Nursey when she was on holiday it was a rough week getting him to Nursey he knows he’s going to school but I don’t think he’s clicked he won’t see everyone at Nursey again so I’m not sure if half days will help or if he will figure he only needs to do half days at school potentially I can get it wrong either way 

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