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Dad not coping

weefi

I love my husband and I love my daughter. But my husband is struggling to cope with my daughter's diagnosis if aspergers. Tonight he got very intimidating with her when she kicked off. She is 10. He suffers from depression and I have recently had surgery - so she is struggling to cope with that and is more volatile as a result. My husband also struggles when I am off my feet. He adores his daughters, we have 3, but sometimes he really flips out when she is kicking off and I worry about him as much as her because he would be devastated if he inadvertently hurt her. I am not sure what I am looking for in posting this but he is now in bed and I am sitting sobbing because I feel so caught in the middle and I want someone to understand.

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  • Thank you both for your comments. My husband and I have both toyed with the idea that he may also be an aspie. Although he has a number if traits, I don't think he would necessarily qualify for a diagnosis - a bit in the middle I think.

    Thank you for the thought that things will improve. Things are already better than they were a few years ago - I can see that better today than a couple of nights ago ;). Sometimes I just need a vent and then I can put on my coping hat again for w few weeks b4 I crash again. My husband does try - he has whisked me away for a weekend of pampering, in Jan. It was lovely but I am still trying to convince him that although time away together is great and necessary, what I need is daily support from him! 

    I am glad that your son us able to be more understanding with you, this is tough with my husband I cannot imagine having to do it alone :)

    Thank you again folks. X

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  • Thank you both for your comments. My husband and I have both toyed with the idea that he may also be an aspie. Although he has a number if traits, I don't think he would necessarily qualify for a diagnosis - a bit in the middle I think.

    Thank you for the thought that things will improve. Things are already better than they were a few years ago - I can see that better today than a couple of nights ago ;). Sometimes I just need a vent and then I can put on my coping hat again for w few weeks b4 I crash again. My husband does try - he has whisked me away for a weekend of pampering, in Jan. It was lovely but I am still trying to convince him that although time away together is great and necessary, what I need is daily support from him! 

    I am glad that your son us able to be more understanding with you, this is tough with my husband I cannot imagine having to do it alone :)

    Thank you again folks. X

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