Hello
I am recently diagnosed at 44 with Autism, ADHD last year. I had to convince my husband I had ADHD and he didn’t believe me until I got the diagnosis then it was the same with the Autism. He then realised he has ADHD but would never go for a diagnosis. I mentioned a year ago to him that I thought our daughter had ADHD and Autism and he got really defensive saying there was no way and I’ve had to fight emotionally every tiny step of the way, from chew necklaces to talking to the school to going for an assessment, after many fallouts eventually he sees her ADHD then it was more convincing to take her for a diagnosis but he still refuses to see the Autism, despite me saying I see it clearly and despite my diagnosis. I am utterly exhausted, on top of all this he hasn’t even talked to me about my diagnosis saying it doesn’t change anything. I know it sounds dramatic but I’m starting to actually seriously question my marriage, this is not an unfamiliar pattern , we’ve been together since we were 18 and now I see my life through new eyes I’m starting to question everything and it feels very, very lonely.
I am just wondered is this common for me to feel this way after late diagnosis, is anyone on here going through similar? I have fought for over three years to get both my diagnosis and now I feel I’m alone in getting my daughter's. I feel like I’ve been in the Truman show my whole life and just realised I’m in the Truman show. Feeling very sad and burnt out.
