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Sibling behaviour

Navigating the pathway

Hi all! I have a 10 Yr old on the pathway to ASD diagnosis and a 5 Yr old. There has been a recent shift in my youngest child's behaviour, with big disregualtions similar to that displayed by her brother and the last 2 days school refusal.

Bit of background when my son was younger I suspected ASD but was dismissed as him just "having a temper"  due to this there was a delay in accessing support for him. Therefore I have been very conscious of my daughters behaviour and identifying signs early so that we can start to recieve support as soon as possible. I have spoken with her teacher who herself has girls with ASD and she says that my daughter isnt displaying any signs or showing the behaviours we are seeing at home, she is also thriving at ballet and again not displayingany behaviours. I am now torn between ti's meaning the behaviour is just at home as learned behaviour and she knows the behavioural expectations of different environments or she is masking.

Does anyone else have experience of this and if so did you seek support or put it down to learned behaviour? 

Thank you in advance

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  • Thank you for your response, yes until about 18 months ago my son was 'cokebottling' but them started to display at school which was when they started to take my concerns seriously he was 8 by this time. This is why I'm very conscious of this behaviour in my youngest, so that I will not be dismissed again due to masking, if that is what this is.

    I have asked about her school experiance but she says something and then takes it back so I have emailed the teacher to ask if she knows of anything, as this is quite out of the blue and we have had no previous issues even with going into school, I am trying to be aware of keeping an open mind as it is the first time but also being very conscious as this was the first sign with son.

  • in reply to Navigating the pathway

    I'm sorry you're having all this to deal with. It's really hard when kids start to tell us what's going on and then track back. It's often fear of the consequences or retaliation should any problems be addressed. Being treated differently might be worse etc and better the devil we know.

    I really hope the teacher can tell you something useful and you reach a solution.

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  • in reply to Navigating the pathway

    I'm sorry you're having all this to deal with. It's really hard when kids start to tell us what's going on and then track back. It's often fear of the consequences or retaliation should any problems be addressed. Being treated differently might be worse etc and better the devil we know.

    I really hope the teacher can tell you something useful and you reach a solution.

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