Meltdown

Hi, I would be Interested in checking out the app. 

 Anonymous234 

I’m the mother of a young primary school girl who has lots of emotional outbursts which are hard on all of us, therefore your email really resonated with me. I love my daughter SO much and even though there have been very difficult times I would never want her to feel bad/guilty about them either now or in the future. (I feel a lot of guilt for not always knowing how best to support my daughter in these moments). If you are able to I’d recommend talking to your parents about this you might find it a very healing process for all of you.

I'd like to remind you of rules 12 and 14 of the community:  

I’m going to give it a go as well for both me and my son.

Great idea! 

It's a web app, so all you need is your browser, on desktop or mobile. I'm currently working on making it a native app.

This sounds so much like me. I'd like to type more but I'm just about to start work, so just know that you're not alone and you're in the right place to be heard and validated. Much love.

Anon,

No one here will shame you for being what you are because you are like us. I would wager that any neurotypical who joined this community to try and shame us would get nowhere very fast. 

Going back to your OP, once again someone has told a tale I recognise in myself. From the bottom of my very emotional heart… THANK YOU… we are not alone. 

I had one last night with the local secretary to the party politburo, Ahem, so called operations manager wt the GP surgery who constantly refuses to answer a simple question with a straight answer. There have been others.

iPhone, Android or Both?

I can try help woth feedback for Android. I'm a software developer (C#), and also have a little experience with play store (but not extensive and quite dated). Also have some experience with UX. Not with graphics, but may be able to advise on making things more intuitive, etc if required.

Hi. I have sent you a friend request with a message. Please can I test your app? I am badly in need of help with my meltdown.

I created an app for crisis moments. I have an autistic son and realized through my searching online that there was nothing for IN THE MOMENT help, only before or after. I am currently looking for people to test the app for free in exchange for feedback, if you want to try it out, just send me a message.

Hi Desmond1979 thank you so much! Do you have coping strategies/techniques that I could possibly try to calm down my meltdowns or extreme emotions? I have alexithymia which means I find it difficult to interpret my emotions.

Try different browsers maybe? I've been struggling with meltdowns quite a lot recently. It's anger or frustration or lashing out by saying mean things I don't mean. I hope I can overcome this.

Thank you everyone for the kind responses! I really appreciate it. If anyone would like to add any further suggestions to this thread, you're very welcome to do so!  

Hi Anonymous234,

Thank you for posting to the community. I am sorry hear that you are struggling with meltdowns and managing your emotions. 

We have advice and guidance on the NAS website which may be useful to you: 

Meltdowns: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/behaviour/meltdowns/all-audiences#H2_4 

Mental health and wellbeing: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/mental-health

I hope this helps. 

Gina Mod

Thank you everyone. I'm trying to be more compassionate to myself but I end up feeling massive pangs of guilt and shame. Any suggestions are most welcome. 

I understand about the on-the-spot rage. I get pi$$ed off relatively easy, but do a good job bottling it up. I look after a friend, who's an Artist, who gets really spare whenever he's shopping at Lidl. Then, I'm the mad one when manoeuvring for an awkward parking bay.

Masking is rough. Exacerbated, for me, by those saying, "You don't want people talking about you!"

I think a great place to start would be to have a conversation with family, friends and loved ones and make them aware that what you experience and share is meltdown behaviour. I’m sure when they know you don’t always have control over it they will understand. Please try not to give yourself a hard time over this as being overwhelmed is a tough thing to manage but with their understanding hopefully will help you to not feel so guilty. I think once a meltdown starts it has to run its course (in my case), it’s like it needs to come out in order to start regulating myself. 
I used to get angry when I was younger and as you said I didn’t understand they were meltdowns, my dad used to try to calm me down ( luckily he was very patient with me) but I do understand the guilt you feel. I don’t get angry anymore, when I feel these feelings building up inside me I take myself away and have some downtime or do a meditation. My therapist taught me rather than concentrating on the thoughts to concentrate on the body and your breathing, I found that to be very good advice.

Dont be hard on yourself, you will find a way to get around this but it might be a case of trial and error. At least if you let people know what you experience they won’t jump to the wrong conclusions when things spill over. 

stay well

I haven’t worked out how to find it yet, but you could try searching specific subject words.

Sorry to but in…

But where the hell is the link to the top page of the community pages?

all I get is a return to recent posts.

I need to search some particular subjects