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Getting very frustrated trying to find general community to ask a question

Lubiloo.66

Just want to know if any older folks on the spectrum who have successfully masked - well you know with autistic overwhelmed dismissed as hormones - and have survived cancer - niche- have found chemo has had a lasting effect on their ability to mask. Like the real you can no longer be contained or there isn't enough brain left to mask and function?

I know this is not the right space. Was getting very frustrated and my adhd means I have to write this now or ot won't happen so here it is.

I am 59

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  • Hey Lubiloo 66,

    I hear you on the ADHD front. Currently, I sit surrounded by piles of notebooks and scraps of paper. Desperately trying not to procrastinate, it seems that while writing this, I am failing. 

    Not quite cracked the 5oth year just yet. But that is only by the slimmest of margins. Nor have I any personal experience of cancer. My old man died at 58, from throat cancer, so maybe it is just a matter of time.

    I do not know whether it is my innate personality or that I am genuinely content with my dogs for company. What I will say is that I have never seen the attraction to masking or the benefits in the long run. As others have alluded to, the decision has been made somewhere internally to put yourself first, and given the circumstances, that seems more than fair.

    Is anywhere in particular the right place if it doesn't get the help it need?

    Keep your head up.

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  • Hey Lubiloo 66,

    I hear you on the ADHD front. Currently, I sit surrounded by piles of notebooks and scraps of paper. Desperately trying not to procrastinate, it seems that while writing this, I am failing. 

    Not quite cracked the 5oth year just yet. But that is only by the slimmest of margins. Nor have I any personal experience of cancer. My old man died at 58, from throat cancer, so maybe it is just a matter of time.

    I do not know whether it is my innate personality or that I am genuinely content with my dogs for company. What I will say is that I have never seen the attraction to masking or the benefits in the long run. As others have alluded to, the decision has been made somewhere internally to put yourself first, and given the circumstances, that seems more than fair.

    Is anywhere in particular the right place if it doesn't get the help it need?

    Keep your head up.

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