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natali

Hi

There has been quite a lot of discussion about it but I could not find anything recent.

Do you know any agency who could advice on the matter?

My 5,5 year old son with ASD is in y1 in a mainstream school. He is verbal, bright and presents very normal well but has serious meltdowns when feels frustrated or threatened. He is almost fully statemented for full-time TA support, which he is getting at the moment. The problem is, the head has made it clear to us that if we choose to stay in the school he would face permanent exclusion for his behaviour. Lately, they've started escluding him regurlaly for a few day, just to make it even clearer.

Help, please, anybody...

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  • Oh my, you have been through a lot. And still going. You can give inspiration to anybody.

    I feel so lost at the moment as I do not know what is actually going on. Our life had been quite ordinary, with ups and downs, till our SENCO resigned and our school suddenly was not able to meet J's needs. He is a bright boy and understands quite a lot what's going on around him. Those exclusions completely knocked him down, made him even more sensitive to failure and resentful to school.

    J presents so normal that some of my friends still don't believe he's autistic. His language and social understanding are still not on the same level as of his classmates', and he gets greatly distressed by noise and proximity of other people, but only at the times when his anxiety level has gone past sertain point. I do not know if he is HF or not as his diagnose just says ASD. But when he looses it, he looses it completely.

    His last exclusion happened on the day when his 1:1 was sent on a training, along with class TA, and there was nobody to cover for them. Afterwards, he was described as a beast, how many people have been hurt, kicked and so on. Yet, it almost looked like they planned it... Sometimes they make me believe that J is really so bad. And then I see him at home, so sweet and calm, so caring... and I just want to cry.

    Our 'normal' daughter is in the same school and quite happy there. I do not have a car in the morning, and the school is just on our doorstep. It would be a big problem to do all the logistics taking the kids to different schools and me getting to work if we move the school.

    All other local schools are either full up or have reached their limit for SEN children, as they say.

    Oh well, we'll see. Let's the battle begin...

    Good luck with your other boy.

    x

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  • Oh my, you have been through a lot. And still going. You can give inspiration to anybody.

    I feel so lost at the moment as I do not know what is actually going on. Our life had been quite ordinary, with ups and downs, till our SENCO resigned and our school suddenly was not able to meet J's needs. He is a bright boy and understands quite a lot what's going on around him. Those exclusions completely knocked him down, made him even more sensitive to failure and resentful to school.

    J presents so normal that some of my friends still don't believe he's autistic. His language and social understanding are still not on the same level as of his classmates', and he gets greatly distressed by noise and proximity of other people, but only at the times when his anxiety level has gone past sertain point. I do not know if he is HF or not as his diagnose just says ASD. But when he looses it, he looses it completely.

    His last exclusion happened on the day when his 1:1 was sent on a training, along with class TA, and there was nobody to cover for them. Afterwards, he was described as a beast, how many people have been hurt, kicked and so on. Yet, it almost looked like they planned it... Sometimes they make me believe that J is really so bad. And then I see him at home, so sweet and calm, so caring... and I just want to cry.

    Our 'normal' daughter is in the same school and quite happy there. I do not have a car in the morning, and the school is just on our doorstep. It would be a big problem to do all the logistics taking the kids to different schools and me getting to work if we move the school.

    All other local schools are either full up or have reached their limit for SEN children, as they say.

    Oh well, we'll see. Let's the battle begin...

    Good luck with your other boy.

    x

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