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14 year old boy - High IQ. Bored with everything, including education.

Rico

Hi,

Just wondering if anyone has a similar experience to us?

Our 14 year old son struggles to see the value in education.  He's uninterested in school or online studying.

He wasn't bullied at school.  He was always well behaved.  He has no friends and no interest in charging his phone.  He doesn't want to be like his peers who he says have been brainwashed with social media. 

He is different.  I've always believed that is a good thing.  If everyone was the same, the world would certainly be very boring.  However, I'm struggling to help him understand that he still needs to find a way to interact with others

He says that everything is boring and doesn't care about anything.  He's capable to perform well in exams but chooses not to take part.

Mum is absolutely distressed.  In turn this distresses me as I work offshore for long periods. Mum can't cope. She can only envisage a bleak future for our son and herself. 

We need support for her to allow me to go back to work.

Our son will not leave the house for any reason and refuses to talk to anyone.  He is uninterested to visit his Granny in England.

We have been advised to put boundaries in place to try and encourage him to accept education.  This only leads to conflict that seems to amuse our son but stresses us beyond belief.

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  • Does he have any ambitions for his future? Honestly, the outlook on only being able to perform a job in my field of special interest through engaging in higher education is the only thing keeping me going right now (I’ll graduate from a German Gymnasium this year). School is (for the most part) quite boring for me, but having a goal certainly helps. This might also be a starting point for him to look into possible careers. He will eventually have and want to make his own money, so thinking about jobs (maybe in a field he’s really interested in… Game Design? Programming? Etc.) and researching what education he needs for that helps him to see some sense in the endless monotony of school.

    I’m aware that it’s probably not that easy though. I wish you and your son well!

  • in reply to Emmalephant

    Thanks Emma,

    Although he's able to get his exams, he doesn't see the point.  He believes his ideas alone will earn him money.

    Sometimes, in the past, he suggested he could work as a scientist. 

    He was very interested in elephants for a while.  His Mum has started a collection.

    I thought the online courses could help accelerate his learning experience towards a level that is less boring for him. 

    Perhaps they'll still play a part.  We'll have to wait it out and see.

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  • in reply to Emmalephant

    Thanks Emma,

    Although he's able to get his exams, he doesn't see the point.  He believes his ideas alone will earn him money.

    Sometimes, in the past, he suggested he could work as a scientist. 

    He was very interested in elephants for a while.  His Mum has started a collection.

    I thought the online courses could help accelerate his learning experience towards a level that is less boring for him. 

    Perhaps they'll still play a part.  We'll have to wait it out and see.

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