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14 year old boy - High IQ. Bored with everything, including education.

Rico

Hi,

Just wondering if anyone has a similar experience to us?

Our 14 year old son struggles to see the value in education.  He's uninterested in school or online studying.

He wasn't bullied at school.  He was always well behaved.  He has no friends and no interest in charging his phone.  He doesn't want to be like his peers who he says have been brainwashed with social media. 

He is different.  I've always believed that is a good thing.  If everyone was the same, the world would certainly be very boring.  However, I'm struggling to help him understand that he still needs to find a way to interact with others

He says that everything is boring and doesn't care about anything.  He's capable to perform well in exams but chooses not to take part.

Mum is absolutely distressed.  In turn this distresses me as I work offshore for long periods. Mum can't cope. She can only envisage a bleak future for our son and herself. 

We need support for her to allow me to go back to work.

Our son will not leave the house for any reason and refuses to talk to anyone.  He is uninterested to visit his Granny in England.

We have been advised to put boundaries in place to try and encourage him to accept education.  This only leads to conflict that seems to amuse our son but stresses us beyond belief.

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  • I'm following your post with interest as I have a similar problem. My 14 year old daughter has ADHD/ASD. 

    We manage to get her into her mainstream high school every day but gave reached a point where she will not go in to any lessons except Construction, which she enjoys. Like your son, she is very bright, but has no aspirations for her future and sees school as a waste of time.

    She will hide in toilets or sit in the playground messing with her phone. School want us to take this from her but I know I will be physically assaulted when I try to do this. School are now considering formal expulsion.

  • in reply to MOTHERofDRAGONS

    Hi MoD,

    Shocked to hear that the school is considering expulsion.

    Our school have helped try and keep our son in school.  He has always been well behaved at school.  He is very much on the more introverted side of autism and I assume this is much more easily handled.

    We're still researching autistic burnout theory as this seems to match quite closely with what we're experiencing.

    Our son doesn't bother charging his phone.  He sees no point to it, as he's unintetested in what his peers have to say or in having friends.

    We get bullied by removing his Switch (using it as a boundary) at home but more mental bullying than physical assault.

    When our son attended school, he was allowed to play on the computer in the library.  It seems that may have been a calming space for him.

    I wonder if your daughter's school has an inside space where she can be herself rather than attend lessons she's uninterested in?

    We've signed our son up for online learning as a backup (He's uninterested in this so far)

    Thanks for your reply.  Good luck in getting the help you need.

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  • in reply to MOTHERofDRAGONS

    Hi MoD,

    Shocked to hear that the school is considering expulsion.

    Our school have helped try and keep our son in school.  He has always been well behaved at school.  He is very much on the more introverted side of autism and I assume this is much more easily handled.

    We're still researching autistic burnout theory as this seems to match quite closely with what we're experiencing.

    Our son doesn't bother charging his phone.  He sees no point to it, as he's unintetested in what his peers have to say or in having friends.

    We get bullied by removing his Switch (using it as a boundary) at home but more mental bullying than physical assault.

    When our son attended school, he was allowed to play on the computer in the library.  It seems that may have been a calming space for him.

    I wonder if your daughter's school has an inside space where she can be herself rather than attend lessons she's uninterested in?

    We've signed our son up for online learning as a backup (He's uninterested in this so far)

    Thanks for your reply.  Good luck in getting the help you need.

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