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SUPPORT AT SCHOOL- MASKING

Linda

Hiya. 

So Im AuDHD and my children are awaiting autism diagnosis.

I'm high masking and my son is high masking. Someone help me understand the school. 

They say they have a good understanding of masking and the detrimental affect it can have. And support based on needs. ....OK great. How can the school support my Son to possibly unmask more? ...there response "we don't see it so can't offer support"

I explained I know you don't. That's why it's called masking but we have discussing this for a year. I have provided alot of information on his needs. 

How can a school say they Will support children who mask, but only if they see it? How can I make them see it. 

I'm so confused. 

Who sets these sort of rules? 

Parents

  • These are really specific questions that need to be put to the school SENCO if you haven't already done so.   

    Is there a EHC plan in place for your children?  It makes a big difference whether there is or isn't - and having an ASD diagnosis rather than a presumption that they have autism may make a big difference to the attitude of the school going forward.

    It sounds that they are 'aware' of their needs & difficulties, and are giving you a stock, generalised answer, rather than an agreed plan - but that's just me reading between the lines of your post. 

    I don't know how long your children have been waiting for diagnosis, but if you are in England, it may be worth approaching your GP about using the right-to-choose service to hurry-up that waiting time.  I don't want to appear to suggest the school may be fobbing you off right now, but with a formal diagnosis, they've less wriggle room in some regards. 


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  • These are really specific questions that need to be put to the school SENCO if you haven't already done so.   

    Is there a EHC plan in place for your children?  It makes a big difference whether there is or isn't - and having an ASD diagnosis rather than a presumption that they have autism may make a big difference to the attitude of the school going forward.

    It sounds that they are 'aware' of their needs & difficulties, and are giving you a stock, generalised answer, rather than an agreed plan - but that's just me reading between the lines of your post. 

    I don't know how long your children have been waiting for diagnosis, but if you are in England, it may be worth approaching your GP about using the right-to-choose service to hurry-up that waiting time.  I don't want to appear to suggest the school may be fobbing you off right now, but with a formal diagnosis, they've less wriggle room in some regards. 


Children
  • in reply to overwhelmed & underwhelmed ( O & U )

    Thanks for your reply. 

    Yes both on right to choose waiting list. 

    I spoke with the senco today. Honestly it was so deflating. I truly do not feel they understand. I asked would it be different once diagnosis was received and they said no we support based on need. 

    So I can win as the need to masked. 

    No EHCP in place at the moment. I think it's likely my next step.  Although the speech and language report they also just ignored. face with raised eyebrow so ive emailed the salt team to highlight and sendias. 

    I'm a bit nervous about EHC plan but will have to bite the bullet. 

    I'm just concerned about there mental health whilst that happens