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New - Advice needed re 19yr old son, please

Sylvie

My 19year old is finishing his college course shortly. He says he doesn't want to do another course or get a job. He also has no intention of leaving home at any time. Given that he is classed as an adult in law, is there anything I can do or do we have to accept that he is about to turn into a hermit!

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  • My son is 19 and was diagnosed at 18. He dropped out of college and has withdrawn from life as we understand it. He spends all his time in his room, on his computer. He has no friends and rarely leaves the house.

    He was refered to a Clinical Psychologist and sees her regularly. What i have learnt is that 'normal' life is very scarey for him and withdrawing his his way of coping. Pushing him about what he is going to do with his future doesnt work, he just withdraws further or gets angry. The consultant thinks it will take 12 months before he is even ready to think about further education or a job. Perhaps your son would benefit from this sort of support. In my area it is available on the NHS via GP. It might be worth a try.

    There is support available from 18 to 25 from the  youth support service, so try not to worry too much. Give him time to find his way. 

    Hope this helps

     

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  • My son is 19 and was diagnosed at 18. He dropped out of college and has withdrawn from life as we understand it. He spends all his time in his room, on his computer. He has no friends and rarely leaves the house.

    He was refered to a Clinical Psychologist and sees her regularly. What i have learnt is that 'normal' life is very scarey for him and withdrawing his his way of coping. Pushing him about what he is going to do with his future doesnt work, he just withdraws further or gets angry. The consultant thinks it will take 12 months before he is even ready to think about further education or a job. Perhaps your son would benefit from this sort of support. In my area it is available on the NHS via GP. It might be worth a try.

    There is support available from 18 to 25 from the  youth support service, so try not to worry too much. Give him time to find his way. 

    Hope this helps

     

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