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Lonely Daughter

ParentingAutism

My daughter has told me she feels really lonely because she has no friends, no one to talk to but the family. She works 3 hours a week currently and loves it but still then there is no socialisation, it's only her. Me and my husband work full time. Our son is in school still and our other daughter goes to college (7am-6pm including travel). So I totally understand why she feels really lonely. After school and weekends we try to get out of the house or do something as a family or 1:1 but it can be difficult. Currently, when she is not at work, she spends all of her time making a board game from her special interest. 

We have looked at her joining a social ground with other autistic people around her age who have the same or similar difficulties with friends but so far she isn't interested in any or they won't meet her needs. We are keeping an eye out but in the meantime I don't really know what to do. She and her sister have the closest bond ever and I think she misses her so much that recently she spends the day in her sister's room whilst she's away at college. 

If anyone has any ideas or advice on what to do, I am so grateful. I don't want her to feel lonely at all. 

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  • I’msorry your daughter is feeling lonely. I can relate to this a lot! I left school 2 years ago–I’m 18 now–and every day I feel lonely. I’ve got my family, which is great there all lovely and supportive-but I have no friends, no one my own age to chill with or talk to. I hated school, it was one big sensory nightmare but despite myself, I miss it, especially the girls from my class. I had no friends but being with them felt like I was part of the group, when I left the routine broke and that’s been hard to adjust from.

    Has your daughter tried any groups? Something she has an interest in could lead to making friends. I’d suggest a small group if any are local, bigger groups might be too stressful. Another thing worth considering is getting a dog or cat. They are great friends and company if your not allergic to fur. I used to have a dog and she was my best friend for a long time, miss her a lot. I could spend time with her and rarely felt alone. I hope your daughter finds something that helps her feel less lonely.

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  • I’msorry your daughter is feeling lonely. I can relate to this a lot! I left school 2 years ago–I’m 18 now–and every day I feel lonely. I’ve got my family, which is great there all lovely and supportive-but I have no friends, no one my own age to chill with or talk to. I hated school, it was one big sensory nightmare but despite myself, I miss it, especially the girls from my class. I had no friends but being with them felt like I was part of the group, when I left the routine broke and that’s been hard to adjust from.

    Has your daughter tried any groups? Something she has an interest in could lead to making friends. I’d suggest a small group if any are local, bigger groups might be too stressful. Another thing worth considering is getting a dog or cat. They are great friends and company if your not allergic to fur. I used to have a dog and she was my best friend for a long time, miss her a lot. I could spend time with her and rarely felt alone. I hope your daughter finds something that helps her feel less lonely.

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