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Advice for my 7 year old son - please

Mummyto2

i Have thought my son is autistic since he was younger but listened to others who said he’s too clever To be autistic  I feel terrible for not doing sooner but I’m filling out a doctors form tomorrow to start it all off  

he is very clever but there’s lots of things that he does which make me think he is 

  • Biting finger when angry and growling - leaving mark on his finger
  • Lining up toys, chairs, anything in particular way
  • Building up toys but not actually playing with them
  • Flapping fingers by eyes, clicking and clapping, clicking fingers
  • Biting nails - so so so short!
  • High pitched noises - especially police siren noises. Singing lines from songs
  • Rarely drink anything unless we remind him to - doesn’t drink a lot at school but he drinks lots when home as we remind him to
  • Gets angry at our younger daughter (4 year old) when she wants to play but not the way he wants - he will growl/hiss at her.
  • Very keen interest in cars, trains and aeroplanes, number plates and numbers -  maths his fav subject
  • Won’t make a conversation with people -
  • Very anxious about new things, people, places - very upset stomach if stressed about something
  • Playing with toys the same every single time
  • Not liking certain foods as too soft - prefers crunchy food
  • Sleeping poorly  - taking ages to fall asleep and waking at 4ish ad not getting back to sleep

im actually just after some advice about how a diagnosis will change things and some advice on sleep!! don’t want him to get older and really struggle and wish I’d done it sooner. I already feel so bad I haven’t done it sooner so please no nasty comments. Also what do I say to doctor to make me not seem just a crazy woman. I have plenty of pictures and videos but feel they won’t take me seriously because he is clever?? 

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  • Hello there, you sound like a great parent who’s concerned for their child’s wellbeing. The first thing to do is yeah seek professional help like going to your doctors to get the ball rolling. From my personal experience of having a child with ADHD/Austim/PDA  and another with austim and an eating disorder you are a true hero and coping with much more than most are so please take a moment to give yourself a hug sometimes too, it really isn’t easy. At home I make conscious choices to try avoid any meltdowns for frustration that may occur, it’s a learning game that’s for sure and people are people so emotions will always arrive autistic or not. Autistic people are very gifted in particular ways, it’s just society has different expectations but who said they were right anyway? As soon as you get the ball rolling I’m sure your concern will start to lessen!

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  • Hello there, you sound like a great parent who’s concerned for their child’s wellbeing. The first thing to do is yeah seek professional help like going to your doctors to get the ball rolling. From my personal experience of having a child with ADHD/Austim/PDA  and another with austim and an eating disorder you are a true hero and coping with much more than most are so please take a moment to give yourself a hug sometimes too, it really isn’t easy. At home I make conscious choices to try avoid any meltdowns for frustration that may occur, it’s a learning game that’s for sure and people are people so emotions will always arrive autistic or not. Autistic people are very gifted in particular ways, it’s just society has different expectations but who said they were right anyway? As soon as you get the ball rolling I’m sure your concern will start to lessen!

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