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Not coping very well at all

lukes mummy

My son was diagnosed at three , I just wondered if anyone else felt like I do . normally everything is fine and I cope really well but well it's probably a lot to do with it , I've just lost my mum a few weeks ago and I'm just struggling so much with him. It's Easter hols and as usual if things don't go his way he tells me he hates me and can get quite aggressive. He doesn't want to do anything , bath or shower and he has now twigged on to the melatonin in his drink at night so he says he's not thirsty and I'm sat on his bed until half ten at night sometimes longer. He's nearly seven and I just feel exhausted , my husband works full time for himself and long hours so he helps when he can. I just feel that this is my life forever and it feels so hard and tiring and to be honest I feel like I want to run away. I won't but is this normal? I'm on anti depressants, I have been for about eight months now , but I just feel so low at the moment. I don't even know why I'm writing this on here , hopefully someone will say that they have been through the same and it's not just me. I feel like a terrible parent.

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  • Hi lukes mummy, firstly let me say, it's no wonder you're feeling this way, trying to look after your son, who needs extra care, whilst suffering depression. As someone who has been depressed, I know how difficult it can be just looking after yourself. So please don't be too hard on yourself, you're a human being, and we all need a little help at times. 

    Have you got any other family or friends that you could reach out to and confide in, any support network? I also wonder if there are any local groups you could attend, to maybe meet up with other parents like yourself, so you can see you're really not alone. As I say, I suffered depression, and I have two kids, one with ASD, and I know how difficult it can be at times. Just try not to be too hard on yourself, because I'm sure you're doing a great job x 

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  • Hi lukes mummy, firstly let me say, it's no wonder you're feeling this way, trying to look after your son, who needs extra care, whilst suffering depression. As someone who has been depressed, I know how difficult it can be just looking after yourself. So please don't be too hard on yourself, you're a human being, and we all need a little help at times. 

    Have you got any other family or friends that you could reach out to and confide in, any support network? I also wonder if there are any local groups you could attend, to maybe meet up with other parents like yourself, so you can see you're really not alone. As I say, I suffered depression, and I have two kids, one with ASD, and I know how difficult it can be at times. Just try not to be too hard on yourself, because I'm sure you're doing a great job x 

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