Published on 12, July, 2020
So, I’ve recently been diagnosed and finally feel that I’m unable to mask (36 year old female that has always struggled with socialised and relationships in general).
Simple things like my partner not replying to me when she’s not with me, she is on her phone a lot when we are together, and I don’t for one minute think she is doing anything she shouldn’t be doing. She says she doesn’t reply straight away when we’re not together if she is doing something on her phone and just thinks “I’ll reply when I’ve finished scrolling X or whatever. Which is fair enough…. I just don’t get this concept as if I see a text message I automatically reply straight away. This is just one example, but I just don’t get people. I don’t want to come across like I’m attacking her when I’m genuinely just asking her questions to try and understand her better and potentially see these grey areas IE: she was obviously just engrossed in something and decided to reply later rather than she was outright ignoring me if this makes sense.
i struggle to see the grey areas in almost any situation, I just wish I could see them more so I can understand people and better my relationships, I just always feel stuck.
Can anyone relate ?
I tend to see only grey areas and not either end of a spectrum, this gets me acused of indesciveness, which I'm not, I just get asked for black and white opinions on things that I don't really have an opinion about and don't see as my business. But that dosen't mean that there aren't areas where I do have very definate views and opinions, they just don't tend to be the same as those of others, are rarely knee jerk reactions and I can and will explain and defend why I think as I do.
I'm similar with that, I tend to see various "options" or "answers" and struggle to say which I think is right, or best. This also applies to taking sides in arguments, voting, anywhere where I feel it's hard (almost impossible) to have some arbitrary opinion on a possible answer to a question that really has no absolute answer.