Is it all too much ??

Hello, i have a 17 year old son, high level Aspergers, currently at Sixth Form. He is studying four subjects full time. He also attends Boys Brigade on Friday evenings, is going for his Duke of Edinburgh silver and attends meetings, is a teaching assistant on Thursdays, has mentoring on Wednesday evenings 6-9 and Saturdays 11-4 and has a paper round on Sundays. He is currently looking for a part time job for a bit of extra money and is just waiting for his provisonal licence to come throught the post before he starts his driving lessons. He is half way through Sixth Form and so we are also looking at Uni's for him. There is also the obvious mountain of homework ....

My point is that I feel he has taken a lot if not too much on. When i try to speak to him about dropping something, the rows and violence begins and he is abusive beyond belief (or maybe not!).  i get no support whatsoever from Sixth Form or D of E or Boys Brigade so i am always the bad cop. They always want to deal with him and not me.

i get that he wants to do these things and fit in and believe me i am bursting with pride for him. but i am watching my son deteriorate. he doesnt eat, he doesnt sleep well and he would never ever admit to anyone (even me) that he wasn't coping.

Am i just panicking or should i try harder to get him to make some changes

thanks for reading.

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  • Is he perhaps filling his time with such a detailed timetable because it makes him feel safe having so much routine?  I was exhausted reading it!  I got a sleep app for my daughters ipod so I could monitor her sleep as she's been telling me for years how badly she sleeps.  The app has helped me see and prepare myself for how the day might go.  Might be helpful for your son too?

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  • Is he perhaps filling his time with such a detailed timetable because it makes him feel safe having so much routine?  I was exhausted reading it!  I got a sleep app for my daughters ipod so I could monitor her sleep as she's been telling me for years how badly she sleeps.  The app has helped me see and prepare myself for how the day might go.  Might be helpful for your son too?

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