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banging the table scared my daughter

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My daughter has just got her statement with a new school that has specialist provision for autism to start in september. In the meantime, she has a home tutor that is funded on medical grounds. The tutor seems like a nice enough lady, she visits for an hour a day. My daughter finds a whole hour sitting at the table with her a bit much sometimes and it gets difficult to maintain concentration. Today when my daughter's mind and gaze began to wander, the tutor banged the table! This really made her jump. I didn't know what to say! It's a bit embarrassing, I don't want to make an atmosphere, as I have to let her in to my home every week day! But I am not happy about it. Any advice would be much appreciated! Or am I making a mountain out of a molehill?

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  • Thank you everyone. It does get a bit much having to have the tutor visiting so often. The other day my daughter wouldn't come downstairs when the tutor arrived. She said she was definatly not going to look at her and didn't want to be seen. She was having a very anxious and withdrawn day in general. Funny you should say that Longman, the tutor looks and behaves exactly like a post WWll school marm!

    I don't think my daughter was bullied, unless being totally isolated can be considered bullying. She spoke to nobody all day and nobody spoke to her. She did not make friends at primary school. I am hoping her new school she starts in september will help her a lot. Her statement says she will be helped socially. She also has a very low age for maths and no concept of time, minutes, hours, days or weeks. She has a high reading age and great IT skills! I have told the tutor an hour is too long for her to sit and concentrate (for her this can feel like a day!) and that due to the way her autism affects her she needs to have breaks, she is now getting a few minutes every 20 mins(I am using visual timer which helps my daughter and means the tutor can't forget!) to jump and somersault around!Smile Thanks again everyone, Hotel California, your sons sound amazing you should be so proud of them, It is great to know things can turn around like that.

    Tonia

     

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  • Thank you everyone. It does get a bit much having to have the tutor visiting so often. The other day my daughter wouldn't come downstairs when the tutor arrived. She said she was definatly not going to look at her and didn't want to be seen. She was having a very anxious and withdrawn day in general. Funny you should say that Longman, the tutor looks and behaves exactly like a post WWll school marm!

    I don't think my daughter was bullied, unless being totally isolated can be considered bullying. She spoke to nobody all day and nobody spoke to her. She did not make friends at primary school. I am hoping her new school she starts in september will help her a lot. Her statement says she will be helped socially. She also has a very low age for maths and no concept of time, minutes, hours, days or weeks. She has a high reading age and great IT skills! I have told the tutor an hour is too long for her to sit and concentrate (for her this can feel like a day!) and that due to the way her autism affects her she needs to have breaks, she is now getting a few minutes every 20 mins(I am using visual timer which helps my daughter and means the tutor can't forget!) to jump and somersault around!Smile Thanks again everyone, Hotel California, your sons sound amazing you should be so proud of them, It is great to know things can turn around like that.

    Tonia

     

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