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banging the table scared my daughter

tbag

My daughter has just got her statement with a new school that has specialist provision for autism to start in september. In the meantime, she has a home tutor that is funded on medical grounds. The tutor seems like a nice enough lady, she visits for an hour a day. My daughter finds a whole hour sitting at the table with her a bit much sometimes and it gets difficult to maintain concentration. Today when my daughter's mind and gaze began to wander, the tutor banged the table! This really made her jump. I didn't know what to say! It's a bit embarrassing, I don't want to make an atmosphere, as I have to let her in to my home every week day! But I am not happy about it. Any advice would be much appreciated! Or am I making a mountain out of a molehill?

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  • Hi Tbag

    My daughter (Year 8) has gone through a similar process to yours.  She currently has a tutor come to the house once a week for two hours and she is brilliant.  I'm not sure of her qualifications but she has a lot of experience of working with children like my daughter and in the learning centre with children that have been expelled etc.

    My daughter also gets 3 hours of online learning with three different teachers.  We met the maths teacher as she came to set up the online learning.  I knew straight away that she had no concept what so ever of my daughters problems.  She was incredibly dismissive when I told her that maths was a very difficult concept and that instructions need to be clear, repetitive etc and she talked in metaphors and idioms for an hour! She also left a maths book behind that was way too hard for my daughter.  

    I think you probably need to go back to whoever organises your daughter's tutoring and speak to them.  Alternatively, do you feel you could mention it to her yourself?  Perhaps in an email?  I started a friendly email conversation with the above tutor (on the pretext that I was helping her rather than my daughter) and this worked however, she doesn't come to my house so this made it easier.

    Funny how different authorities organise this kind of learning but I'm glad we only have a visitor once a week as I'd find it a logistical nightmare with work and having to be at home.  The online tutors are recorded as well so everyone is protected and I don't need to have an appropriate adult in the house when they are teaching my daughter.

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  • Hi Tbag

    My daughter (Year 8) has gone through a similar process to yours.  She currently has a tutor come to the house once a week for two hours and she is brilliant.  I'm not sure of her qualifications but she has a lot of experience of working with children like my daughter and in the learning centre with children that have been expelled etc.

    My daughter also gets 3 hours of online learning with three different teachers.  We met the maths teacher as she came to set up the online learning.  I knew straight away that she had no concept what so ever of my daughters problems.  She was incredibly dismissive when I told her that maths was a very difficult concept and that instructions need to be clear, repetitive etc and she talked in metaphors and idioms for an hour! She also left a maths book behind that was way too hard for my daughter.  

    I think you probably need to go back to whoever organises your daughter's tutoring and speak to them.  Alternatively, do you feel you could mention it to her yourself?  Perhaps in an email?  I started a friendly email conversation with the above tutor (on the pretext that I was helping her rather than my daughter) and this worked however, she doesn't come to my house so this made it easier.

    Funny how different authorities organise this kind of learning but I'm glad we only have a visitor once a week as I'd find it a logistical nightmare with work and having to be at home.  The online tutors are recorded as well so everyone is protected and I don't need to have an appropriate adult in the house when they are teaching my daughter.

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