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banging the table scared my daughter

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My daughter has just got her statement with a new school that has specialist provision for autism to start in september. In the meantime, she has a home tutor that is funded on medical grounds. The tutor seems like a nice enough lady, she visits for an hour a day. My daughter finds a whole hour sitting at the table with her a bit much sometimes and it gets difficult to maintain concentration. Today when my daughter's mind and gaze began to wander, the tutor banged the table! This really made her jump. I didn't know what to say! It's a bit embarrassing, I don't want to make an atmosphere, as I have to let her in to my home every week day! But I am not happy about it. Any advice would be much appreciated! Or am I making a mountain out of a molehill?

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  • All the more important to ask the Council what training this person has had with supporting children on the autistic spectrum.

    For all you know she may have no such background. And you need to ensure she is properly vetted for working with children - don't assume the council will have followed procedure.

    Transition from junior to senior school can be traumatic, especially if she had established some meaningful friendships that have not transferred, or if children that knew here before transition have spread the word around her new school environment. Bullying of children on the spectrum by taking advantage of their social and sensory difficulties is widespread, and you might want to make enquiries about what is happening at this school.

    Teachers may disregard this type of bullying as mild teasing, and only be aware if there is conventional bullying, if that.  Mild teasing isn't so easy for children on the spectrum to handle, especially if it is the majority picking on one, and she has found no allies.

    Banging the table sounds very post WWII school marmish ....not what you'd expect from a professional in this day and age.

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  • All the more important to ask the Council what training this person has had with supporting children on the autistic spectrum.

    For all you know she may have no such background. And you need to ensure she is properly vetted for working with children - don't assume the council will have followed procedure.

    Transition from junior to senior school can be traumatic, especially if she had established some meaningful friendships that have not transferred, or if children that knew here before transition have spread the word around her new school environment. Bullying of children on the spectrum by taking advantage of their social and sensory difficulties is widespread, and you might want to make enquiries about what is happening at this school.

    Teachers may disregard this type of bullying as mild teasing, and only be aware if there is conventional bullying, if that.  Mild teasing isn't so easy for children on the spectrum to handle, especially if it is the majority picking on one, and she has found no allies.

    Banging the table sounds very post WWII school marmish ....not what you'd expect from a professional in this day and age.

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