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banging the table scared my daughter

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My daughter has just got her statement with a new school that has specialist provision for autism to start in september. In the meantime, she has a home tutor that is funded on medical grounds. The tutor seems like a nice enough lady, she visits for an hour a day. My daughter finds a whole hour sitting at the table with her a bit much sometimes and it gets difficult to maintain concentration. Today when my daughter's mind and gaze began to wander, the tutor banged the table! This really made her jump. I didn't know what to say! It's a bit embarrassing, I don't want to make an atmosphere, as I have to let her in to my home every week day! But I am not happy about it. Any advice would be much appreciated! Or am I making a mountain out of a molehill?

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  • Hi - is her tutor trained in teaching autistic children?  I don't think her response by banging the table indicates that.  You need a good understanding of autism and a good imagination, you need to be flexible to understand how to keep a child (any child) engaged for an hour.  I've found over the yrs that we try and work with people, whether they be tutors, teachers, TA's, support workers etc.  It's right that we should, but it makes presumptions.  That's where things can go wrong.  I think we know, as you do by posting here, that her reaction to your daughter was out of order.  Therefore, whilst we try to work with people, there are limits.  You need to discuss this constructively with her, explaining why you are concerned.  Also, do you absolutely have to let her into your home every week day?  Can you, if need be, after your discussions, refer it to a higher authority if necessary?

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  • Hi - is her tutor trained in teaching autistic children?  I don't think her response by banging the table indicates that.  You need a good understanding of autism and a good imagination, you need to be flexible to understand how to keep a child (any child) engaged for an hour.  I've found over the yrs that we try and work with people, whether they be tutors, teachers, TA's, support workers etc.  It's right that we should, but it makes presumptions.  That's where things can go wrong.  I think we know, as you do by posting here, that her reaction to your daughter was out of order.  Therefore, whilst we try to work with people, there are limits.  You need to discuss this constructively with her, explaining why you are concerned.  Also, do you absolutely have to let her into your home every week day?  Can you, if need be, after your discussions, refer it to a higher authority if necessary?

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