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DLA guilt and ostrich behaviour

peckie

we were told by our four year old sons Dr to apply for D.L.A. Two months later and I still cant bring myself  to fill out the forms. Its like I will finally be admitting he has a disability. Stupid isnt it.??  Can anyone give me the verbal kick up the backside I need? Thanks.

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  • I completely understand your reluctance to fill in the form.  I cried buckets when I did my boys forms.  With me I felt like  I was criticising my children because they couldn't do what other children could do at that age, and I felt a lot of guilt.  It felt like I was dissatisfied with them, which certainly wasn't the case.  I even wrote a covering letter saying as much.

    Anyway years on and I am glad I went through the process as it has  helped the boys buy specialist items over the years.

    Finally, there are support groups like this one who can help you through the process, filling in the form in stages may also help as it can be emotionally draining doing it all at once.

    Deep breaths .

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  • I completely understand your reluctance to fill in the form.  I cried buckets when I did my boys forms.  With me I felt like  I was criticising my children because they couldn't do what other children could do at that age, and I felt a lot of guilt.  It felt like I was dissatisfied with them, which certainly wasn't the case.  I even wrote a covering letter saying as much.

    Anyway years on and I am glad I went through the process as it has  helped the boys buy specialist items over the years.

    Finally, there are support groups like this one who can help you through the process, filling in the form in stages may also help as it can be emotionally draining doing it all at once.

    Deep breaths .

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