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refusing to apologise

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Just preempting what I think might happen and asking for your comments.

I have a feeling that I may be called into school because one of my son's tutors overheard my son say to his lsa that he doesn't like his tutor because he cannot teach.

The tutor overheard and has demanded an  apology.  My son has refused to do so.

His aspieness has kicked in I think, as telling the truth, despite who it hurts, is the logical thing to do in his mind.

Just not sure how I get this across to his tutor.  If he does apologise, it will not be heartfelt and it somehow feels wrong to force my son to apologise when we  all know it is false, and will no doubt turn my son even more against this tutor.

Has anyone else been through this and / or have suggestions?

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  • Sorry, to explain, When the rest of the world seems to run in circles being politically correct but telling lies I get fed up of the pettiness of whats going on. At those times I may choose to agree or apologise to cut through all the **** and try and set a new focus. That's what I meant by stratagy game. 

    In the school situation I may think that the most important thing is my learning. To learn I need a stable situation and need to bring the teacher back in line. The simplist way to achieve this is to give an elequent unequivical apology to the wider audience (and also the teacher) so cutting the ground from under his feet. It's cold calculated logic (with a touch of revenge) but serves my purpose well. It's how my brain is wired, the simplist route from A to B without any of that grey fuzzy emotional stuff. 

    In hindsight I don't think thats really the sort of thing we should be teaching kids or holding up as an example.

    Dunk

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  • Sorry, to explain, When the rest of the world seems to run in circles being politically correct but telling lies I get fed up of the pettiness of whats going on. At those times I may choose to agree or apologise to cut through all the **** and try and set a new focus. That's what I meant by stratagy game. 

    In the school situation I may think that the most important thing is my learning. To learn I need a stable situation and need to bring the teacher back in line. The simplist way to achieve this is to give an elequent unequivical apology to the wider audience (and also the teacher) so cutting the ground from under his feet. It's cold calculated logic (with a touch of revenge) but serves my purpose well. It's how my brain is wired, the simplist route from A to B without any of that grey fuzzy emotional stuff. 

    In hindsight I don't think thats really the sort of thing we should be teaching kids or holding up as an example.

    Dunk

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