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refusing to apologise

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Just preempting what I think might happen and asking for your comments.

I have a feeling that I may be called into school because one of my son's tutors overheard my son say to his lsa that he doesn't like his tutor because he cannot teach.

The tutor overheard and has demanded an  apology.  My son has refused to do so.

His aspieness has kicked in I think, as telling the truth, despite who it hurts, is the logical thing to do in his mind.

Just not sure how I get this across to his tutor.  If he does apologise, it will not be heartfelt and it somehow feels wrong to force my son to apologise when we  all know it is false, and will no doubt turn my son even more against this tutor.

Has anyone else been through this and / or have suggestions?

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  • Another possibility is that your son has taken someone else's remark to literally - eg so and so is a useless teacher might be taken by him as an informed comment.

    And for similar reasons his peers may feed him a line like that because they know he might repeat it for their entertainment.

    But the other thing to check for is teachers bullying him because they don't take his disability seriously. Your son's impression of his teaching may be because that teacher treats him less respectfully.

    Also, sadly it is true, some teachers really cannot teach. They may have been able to do so once and lost their nerve (facing a class of unruly unresponsive pupils can be soul destroying), or they may be lazy about preparation or lesson plans such that they don't get things across well or confuse their pupils.

    And then again why cannot pupils express an opinion? Why should your son apologise for saying his teacher cannot teach. That's for the school to address a possible deficiency in one of its staff, not for a pupil to need to apologise.

    If the school is employing teachers who cannot teach, and leave that impression on pupils, it aint good.

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  • Another possibility is that your son has taken someone else's remark to literally - eg so and so is a useless teacher might be taken by him as an informed comment.

    And for similar reasons his peers may feed him a line like that because they know he might repeat it for their entertainment.

    But the other thing to check for is teachers bullying him because they don't take his disability seriously. Your son's impression of his teaching may be because that teacher treats him less respectfully.

    Also, sadly it is true, some teachers really cannot teach. They may have been able to do so once and lost their nerve (facing a class of unruly unresponsive pupils can be soul destroying), or they may be lazy about preparation or lesson plans such that they don't get things across well or confuse their pupils.

    And then again why cannot pupils express an opinion? Why should your son apologise for saying his teacher cannot teach. That's for the school to address a possible deficiency in one of its staff, not for a pupil to need to apologise.

    If the school is employing teachers who cannot teach, and leave that impression on pupils, it aint good.

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