Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi im shaz
My daughter has lived away from home since birth ( please don't judge) I have cfs also have a longstanding issue with my back causing bad mobility problems
My daughter is 14 with autism and pda
So an explanation of the situation
My daughter lives with paternal grandmother and during visitation has become increasingly hostile and unpleasant with me, I never shout apart from one situation which I will explain soon I try my best to do what she needs wants etc but it came to a point earlier in the year where my eldest daughter after 6 years of her living with her dad (court ordered) turned up at my house ages 18 with seriouse anorexia nervosa and informed me she was pregnant, my eldest asked to come home she's doing better and baby was born healthy at term
The issue came in when the room my youngest stays in when she stops over became unavailable to her she was barely staying over one night in 6 week I got hurled a lot of abuse but the language used was that of a grown adult and legal terms she can only have got from grandmother I feel like I'm being abused by paternal.grandmother through my autistic daughter she won't talk to me grunts growls or is just absolutely verbally nasty towards me when my daughter came up after discovering the room was needed and her screaming down the phone at me for 2 hours I lost my temper it was my birthday the day after as well and I eventually lost it i called her a spoilt nasty brat and she said I didn't treat them equally (my eldest could have being hospitalised and lost her child without intervention) (my youngest mimicking words during this about court orders etc and calling me a bad mom ) I eventually told her to f off first time I've ever ever shouted or sworn like ever
I went through this treatment at the hands of my eldest daughter and my sons dad basically parental alienation bullying and abuse I feel this is being repeated as it's only me who's targeted with the nastiness and have being told my paternal grans daughter she's heard me being badmouthed herself I'm good friends with the paternal grans daughter
Child's dad doesn't want me to co tact social workers but I'm at a loss of what else to do as this isn't just a breakdown in a relationship it's gotten to a point where I feel bullied
Gran has lupus I have diagnosed cfs suspected fibro and can't walk without a stick short distance and realistically need a mobility scooter for long and I'm also being told I'm crap because I'm disabled daughter states well nan says she's got similar and she can do it (nan is able to walk independently of mobility aids) and I believe she's telling my daughter I am not sick or stating because she's ok I should be too I've tried explaining to my daughter I'm also disabled as she gets told her autism makes her different so does my illnesses but she can't seem to accept this
It's resulted in no contact and her dad not the same dad as eldest two wants to see her desperately I personally don't want to see her untill I'm not being abused for being me
Any advice would genuinely be appreciated
Anyone ?
Hi so the situation with my eldest twos dad was very toxic to a point he totally stole the children away and actually warped my children's perception of me I had no contact for years and they the eldest now is home with me and the boy has has specialist intervention to deal with what he was put through me and the eldest two have good relationship now after being estranged their dad was abusive to me used the kids as weapons and didn't care how the children were affected I just got that all calm and nice
The youngest one who lives with nan has a different dad me and her dad get on well but the nan seems to hate me and I believe she's now trying to pull the same stuff that my ex did with my other kids
I'm sick of people using my kids as weapons and it's currently the youngest child who I believe is voicing her nans opinions buts it's getting really nasty
The eldest two are no longer in dad's care but I've had these sort of stuff where people who have had and ment to be looking after my kids have used them to hurt me
So it's two desperate people who have alienated and bullied me using the children the first is resolved the youngest is being vile and I genuinely am.struggling to cope with it I feel like she's being taught to hate me because the nan doesn't like me it would also maybe worth mentioning that I believe nan is also possibly autistic or has some form of disorder too as unless omthing directly affects her she has a total lack of empathy towards people who are not directly with her or would affect her life
I want to get social care involves due to the fact I think the behaviour and attitude is being taught my daughter by her nan and I think that's a foam of mental abuse my eldest two went thru this at the hands of their dad and it took over 6 years for my kids to realize I'm not the master he made me out to be I'm worried my daughter thinks im a monster because other people (nan) is telling her I am I'm tired of being bullied
I'm a good mom I just get unwell with a condition that makes me very tired but I do love my kids I just seem to have had social workers place my children with highly vile people
Monster not master my spelling is bad