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struggling mum

Hi all,

Relatively new here - since my 10 yr old son's diagnoses of HFA/Aspergers couple of weeks ago have been feeling really positive because finally I feel I have the missing piece of the jigsaw so to speak. Another reason is because I have spent 10 years thinking I have to be the worst parent imaginable for my child to become verbally and physically aggressive. I've been getting as much info as possible which has helped alot and taken our relationship from absolute crisis point to the beginning of recovery. 

Here is the current problem... I'm unable to sleep yet again as I don't know what to expect in the future. My son (outside of the behavioural difficulties) is a gentle and very sensitive soul. I'm reading that the vast majority of children on the spectrum are bullied something my son has already experienced alot of and it breaks my heart. I intend on helping with social skills as much as possible but its hard as his motivation to try new things and anything he deams 'educational' is non existent. As his mum I'm 'embarassing' which I understand with him being a boy but makes his desire to listen to me less. He sees his father occassionally due to distance but lets just say not an option as good role model material. 

The other issue keeping me awake is this.. I know every individual on or off the spectrum is different, but what am I to expect when his an adult? Will he be independent, able to have functioning relationships, employment and own housing? I certainly hope so but need someone with experience to help me gather a realistic idea of what the future holds.

Any insights would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you for reading x

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  • Hi - Intense makes a lot of good points.  You can help him a lot by understanding how autism affects him personally.  I think it's important to get a statement of educational needs, if you haven't already, so that he gets extra support at school.  I can understand you worrying about how things will turn out as the years go by.  I think the most important thing is to try as far as poss to give him the understanding + environment, whether at home, school or elsewhere, that is likely to benefit him the most.  In that way he shd be on his way to fulfilling his potential.  It's easier said than done but you are in a position to help with those things. Smile In the end, imo, all we want is to being happy/content etc.

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  • Hi - Intense makes a lot of good points.  You can help him a lot by understanding how autism affects him personally.  I think it's important to get a statement of educational needs, if you haven't already, so that he gets extra support at school.  I can understand you worrying about how things will turn out as the years go by.  I think the most important thing is to try as far as poss to give him the understanding + environment, whether at home, school or elsewhere, that is likely to benefit him the most.  In that way he shd be on his way to fulfilling his potential.  It's easier said than done but you are in a position to help with those things. Smile In the end, imo, all we want is to being happy/content etc.

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