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False memories

NAS93107

Hi. I'm new. I'm the parent of an adult son with ASD. 

We have a great relationship and always have. However, lately he has started making comments about memories of things that just didn't happen the way he sees them. In some cases they didn't happen at all. 

These comments are hurtful especially as I'm his main emotional support. My question is ,is this an autistic trait? If so,how do I handle it? How do I stop myself feeling so sad and frustrated by it? 

Currently I'm not saying anything but these comments are incredibly hurtful. Do I gently correct him or do I let it go? :-(

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  • Hi

    I can’t say that I have ever completely fabricated something as it doesn’t come naturally to me but I can and have exaggerated things to please others. This is not for my personal benefit, this I think is to make others happy and ultimately I thought it would help me to fit in. It is more of a twisting of the truth really. This is one thing I have stopped doing as I would feel really uncomfortable with it. Most my life has been spent trying to please others, these days I try to be better to myself and not put myself in such a vulnerable position (which fawning does). As Caelus said I can perceive things wrongly a lot of the time and often can look at things in a negative way. 
    I guess dreaming can be a very powerful experience in some cases, I’m sure lots of individuals have woken asking themselves if something really happened. 
    I am no expert nor do I take any form of medication so not fit to advise but does he take medication and if so could side effects cause anything like that?

    Sorry I am not able to offer much advice and I hope you manage to resolve this situation.

    Good luck

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  • Hi

    I can’t say that I have ever completely fabricated something as it doesn’t come naturally to me but I can and have exaggerated things to please others. This is not for my personal benefit, this I think is to make others happy and ultimately I thought it would help me to fit in. It is more of a twisting of the truth really. This is one thing I have stopped doing as I would feel really uncomfortable with it. Most my life has been spent trying to please others, these days I try to be better to myself and not put myself in such a vulnerable position (which fawning does). As Caelus said I can perceive things wrongly a lot of the time and often can look at things in a negative way. 
    I guess dreaming can be a very powerful experience in some cases, I’m sure lots of individuals have woken asking themselves if something really happened. 
    I am no expert nor do I take any form of medication so not fit to advise but does he take medication and if so could side effects cause anything like that?

    Sorry I am not able to offer much advice and I hope you manage to resolve this situation.

    Good luck

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