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Refusing to go into school

WilliamsMummy

Hi all, 

My son (4) is refusing to go into pre-school at the moment. He keeps telling me he his sad there but wont tell the teacher this. Ive tried to discuss this with his teachers but they tell me they see nothing. They think he is happy and everything is okay.

BUT

If it was okay then it wouldnt have taken me an hour and a half to get him dressed, ending with him being late. 

He has no IEP. NOTHING!

The school isnt being very helpful. 

The SENCO has been to observe him but again saw no issues. 

My son will NOT tell people when he is sad. 

Anyone been through something similar?

Should I get the SENCO involved?

Thanks in advance 

Vicky

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  • Hi WilliamsMummy

    I am sad to hear of your difficulties having similar myself. worked out it may well be she's (my daughter) a different person in school because her survival depends on her not letting her guard down. So she WILL come across as 'coping' for the very good reason she doesn't want to stand out. The minute she's with us at home-her sanctuary- everything she bottled up throughout the day gets let out. This may be the case for your young person also.

    The school see an angel with my daughter she is the model student yet we get the real her, the arguing the reluctance to attend school, the not sleeping the self harming, and sadly school get so defensive when I go in I feel I am hitting my head against a brick wall.

    As intenseworld said you can put in for a statement yourself as you know who your son is as a person better than anybody, so you will know what his needs are and what kind of support he needs.

    I wish you all the luck in the world.

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  • Hi WilliamsMummy

    I am sad to hear of your difficulties having similar myself. worked out it may well be she's (my daughter) a different person in school because her survival depends on her not letting her guard down. So she WILL come across as 'coping' for the very good reason she doesn't want to stand out. The minute she's with us at home-her sanctuary- everything she bottled up throughout the day gets let out. This may be the case for your young person also.

    The school see an angel with my daughter she is the model student yet we get the real her, the arguing the reluctance to attend school, the not sleeping the self harming, and sadly school get so defensive when I go in I feel I am hitting my head against a brick wall.

    As intenseworld said you can put in for a statement yourself as you know who your son is as a person better than anybody, so you will know what his needs are and what kind of support he needs.

    I wish you all the luck in the world.

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