• Replies 6 replies
  • Subscribers 65 subscribers
  • Views 1003 views
  • Users 0 members are here
Options
Related
Hints and tips
  • To quote someone's message, first select/highlight the relevant text, and then use the Quote button that appears
  • To "mention" someone, type @ followed by the start of the forum name, and choose from the list; that person will get a notification of being mentioned

Refusing to go into school

WilliamsMummy

Hi all, 

My son (4) is refusing to go into pre-school at the moment. He keeps telling me he his sad there but wont tell the teacher this. Ive tried to discuss this with his teachers but they tell me they see nothing. They think he is happy and everything is okay.

BUT

If it was okay then it wouldnt have taken me an hour and a half to get him dressed, ending with him being late. 

He has no IEP. NOTHING!

The school isnt being very helpful. 

The SENCO has been to observe him but again saw no issues. 

My son will NOT tell people when he is sad. 

Anyone been through something similar?

Should I get the SENCO involved?

Thanks in advance 

Vicky

Parents

  • Many high-functioning autistics/Aspies have statements.  My youngest, who is very clever has one and my even cleverer eldest is likely to get one (currently being assessed).

    A parent can apply direct themselves to their LA SEN department for their child to be assessed.

    You can get advice from your local Parent Partnership organisation and IPSEA:

    http://www.parentpartnership.org.uk/find-your-pps

    http://www.ipsea.org.uk

    which will be invaluable in applying and filling in forms etc.

    The school doesn't have to even support it, although obviously it helps if they do.

    You can apply for statements even at pre-school age.

    For the school not seeing the behaviour, there is a stickied link on the forum from the NAS about this issue and you can print it out or email it to your child's teacher, it's well-known for autistic children to mask their difficulties at school.

    Video your child's behaviour at home and keep a diary.  It will all be useful for the statement process.

    Sadly some schools don't write IEPs as there is no legal requirement for them to even though it's best practice.

Reply

  • Many high-functioning autistics/Aspies have statements.  My youngest, who is very clever has one and my even cleverer eldest is likely to get one (currently being assessed).

    A parent can apply direct themselves to their LA SEN department for their child to be assessed.

    You can get advice from your local Parent Partnership organisation and IPSEA:

    http://www.parentpartnership.org.uk/find-your-pps

    http://www.ipsea.org.uk

    which will be invaluable in applying and filling in forms etc.

    The school doesn't have to even support it, although obviously it helps if they do.

    You can apply for statements even at pre-school age.

    For the school not seeing the behaviour, there is a stickied link on the forum from the NAS about this issue and you can print it out or email it to your child's teacher, it's well-known for autistic children to mask their difficulties at school.

    Video your child's behaviour at home and keep a diary.  It will all be useful for the statement process.

    Sadly some schools don't write IEPs as there is no legal requirement for them to even though it's best practice.

Children
No Data