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struggling mum

Hi everyone,

After a very long process my son (10) has just been diagnosed with Aspergers. I have suspected for some time so in many ways the diagnosis is a relief and answers some questions. I have read lots and lots of information and trying to be proactive in helping my son, I see the positives in the condition and the difficulties he faces but here's the problem.... defining what is the condition and what is bad behaviour. For example...His meltdowns now include swearing, mean comments and hitting out?? These factors really hurt! I know its not about me but aswell as this is totally humiliating and I feel complete lack of control. We go through the whole process, he acts out in this way, loses his beloved technology, finally earns it back then the cycle starts over. Any insight would be very welcome.

Thank you 

Parents

  • Thank-you both for your insights. I see what your saying and yes on reflection feel the technology is probably like a sanctuary for him. I guess what I'm trying to achieve is two things. He's become very obsessed with violence which concerns me - I've always restricted what he plays but when he does play only ever wants to play violent games. I also very much want to encourage to do more activities outside of the xbox to build his social skills. I love my son so much and so want to do right by him. He was diagnosed last week which I felt was positive as I had more insight into my little man. I feel I've entered into a whole new world and so confused mixed with the greatest desire to do right. I guess I'm asking help and information to do the very best for my son. I am so grateful for a site like this that I can talk to those who have experience with the possible obstacles our gorgeous children face.

    Thank you for reading.

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  • Thank-you both for your insights. I see what your saying and yes on reflection feel the technology is probably like a sanctuary for him. I guess what I'm trying to achieve is two things. He's become very obsessed with violence which concerns me - I've always restricted what he plays but when he does play only ever wants to play violent games. I also very much want to encourage to do more activities outside of the xbox to build his social skills. I love my son so much and so want to do right by him. He was diagnosed last week which I felt was positive as I had more insight into my little man. I feel I've entered into a whole new world and so confused mixed with the greatest desire to do right. I guess I'm asking help and information to do the very best for my son. I am so grateful for a site like this that I can talk to those who have experience with the possible obstacles our gorgeous children face.

    Thank you for reading.

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