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Teenage son with Aspergers

KTB

Hi,

i really need some help please.... I have a 14 year old son who has Aspergers and ADHD. I am really struggling with appropriateness and behavior.

He doesn't go out at all, however i have recently found on his phone really in appropriate materials...He has also been talking to complete strangers, I believe posing to be young girls that are sending him images supposedly of themselves (clearly they aren't) and asking for photos in return. My son trusts everyone and can't see bad in anyone and has sent photos to these people (I'm mortified) he cannot see what he has done is wrong and doesn't have the understanding or language to understand the dangers involved. He started talking to girls from school a while ago but in a very abrupt way, talking to 3 or 4 girls at the same time in the same way, he got found out and was the laughing stock but couldn't see why... i removed all internet for a month but when I gave it back he was straight back on it again, having learnt nothing. I spoke to his Aspergers/ADHD consultant who tweeted his meds And said it was obsessive behavior now...

He has now raised the bar even further by sending photos of himself to complete strangers and I have no idea how to make him understand he can't do that and the dangers involved. I feel physically sick.

I have taken all internet access away from him and removed all his devices.

Was thinking I need to find an appropiate awareness course??

please any suggestions???

Thanks in advance.

A very worried mum!

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  • Thank you so much Longman for your reply, you talk so much sense....

    you really are spot on in that as he's not going out he is not therefore seeing what is acceptable both socially and physically, I think a mentor is a great idea and will defiantly pursue that so thank you... 

    There really is not a lot of info out there regarding this as I have been scouring the internet for a while! I will seek out some books to try and help him too, you are completely right when you say about putting a negative cap of sexual feeling and normal feeling, i just at the moment can't see how to find that happy balance as it seems to be all - out of control or nothing at all.... I'm sure there must be a middle ground but not sure how to get to it... I think I'm actually happier with nothing at the moment as I really fear the next steps and really don't want him to end up in trouble with the police..... However I completely understand about not making it a negative issue...

    thanks again so much for all your help/advice and tips, I'm truly grateful :-) 

    xx

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  • Thank you so much Longman for your reply, you talk so much sense....

    you really are spot on in that as he's not going out he is not therefore seeing what is acceptable both socially and physically, I think a mentor is a great idea and will defiantly pursue that so thank you... 

    There really is not a lot of info out there regarding this as I have been scouring the internet for a while! I will seek out some books to try and help him too, you are completely right when you say about putting a negative cap of sexual feeling and normal feeling, i just at the moment can't see how to find that happy balance as it seems to be all - out of control or nothing at all.... I'm sure there must be a middle ground but not sure how to get to it... I think I'm actually happier with nothing at the moment as I really fear the next steps and really don't want him to end up in trouble with the police..... However I completely understand about not making it a negative issue...

    thanks again so much for all your help/advice and tips, I'm truly grateful :-) 

    xx

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