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School refusal and difficulty settling into routine

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My Son is seven. We had the Christmas holidays when things were a little different, going to different places, meals being later. My Son was going to late/ very late and getting up early/very early, despite going to bed at his usual time. Just before he went back to school he wasn’t well but then seemed better so he went back to school for a day but was unwell for a few days so was off school. Now we he’s well again but we can’t get him to school and he still wants to go on outings but we only go to do certain places during term time weekends. If we say we will go to the places we go to in the holidays when it’s the holidays he gets upset and cross. If we tell him

we are doing the usual routine he gets cross and upset Any advice?? School have said there are no issues there, he’s very happy and doing well. 

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  • On the subject of school refusal, I have a 13 year who has been regularly refusing to go to school for the past year or so. It's been a massive strain but what I've learnt to date is (1) do liaise with the school and keep them up to date and (2) be patient. I've concluded I cannot 'make' my daughter go to school and that it is better not to apply too much pressure. Our saving grace in our family is that her father works from home, and I can work from home a couple of days a week, otherwise it would be a much bigger problem. My daughter has never been able to express why she won't go to school, and I'm sure it's not due to friendships or bullying or anything to do with teachers. She's just not happy there (she probably has autism and ADD, and I think she just cannot focus too long in lessons) and has decided on some days she doesn't want to go in. My anxiety levels are sky high but I've learnt to not feel too responsible as I've tried all kinds of methods to get her to go in and they've taken a lot of energy and haven't worked so the more I back off, the better it is for me and for her, I believe. 

  • in reply to Panda

    Hi there, sorry to ask. My son is 11 and is really struggling with school, it's like he's experiencing a burnout and amis just exhausted aswel. 

    The school reduced his hours as he was struggling with full days ( however this wasn't official and now I have letters about his attendance, I pushed for this to be made official though ) 

    He was diagnosed with Autism and are doing a QB test to see if ADHD too. 

    He has no problem with Math it's everything else, he doesn't see the point in going over things a million times and can't stand the classrooms as it's too much for him. I got him ear defenders the ones like headphones so more discreet and he does maths with the head in a smaller environment. 

    I have tried calling camhs 4 days in a row waiting for a response, I just don't know what else I can do? 

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  • in reply to Panda

    Hi there, sorry to ask. My son is 11 and is really struggling with school, it's like he's experiencing a burnout and amis just exhausted aswel. 

    The school reduced his hours as he was struggling with full days ( however this wasn't official and now I have letters about his attendance, I pushed for this to be made official though ) 

    He was diagnosed with Autism and are doing a QB test to see if ADHD too. 

    He has no problem with Math it's everything else, he doesn't see the point in going over things a million times and can't stand the classrooms as it's too much for him. I got him ear defenders the ones like headphones so more discreet and he does maths with the head in a smaller environment. 

    I have tried calling camhs 4 days in a row waiting for a response, I just don't know what else I can do? 

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