Talking to daughter about autism

Hello, 

After a two year wait we have finally just had our paediatrician appointment which confirmed suspected autism (still need to see a speech and language therapist and educational psychologist) for my 10 year old daughter. I’ve always spoken openly about the fact we are likely a neurodivergent family (I’m awaiting assessment myself) and speak positively about it.

However since the appointment my daughter has refused to entertain the word autism and says it’s like nails down a chalkboard to hear it. She says she doesn’t even know what it means but when I try and explain she tells me to shut up.  I’m going to stop talking about it for a while because I’m obviously annoying her but I was wondering if anyone has any tips on talking to their child about their potential diagnosis and the reason for the things they struggle with without annoying the hell out of them!