Daughter 17, getting a bit desperate.

She was diagnosed very late at 16. Crashed out of A levels 5 months later. She sees an NHS psychologist frequently. She’s in burnout.

After 8 months of fighting we’ve got an EHCP. She’s refusing to engage with any of it. Won’t discuss it. Won’t discuss anything, she never has, it’s always been a struggle. She just wants to stay in her room or hang out with her parents. She has no friends. Doesn’t do social media. We’ve tried fluoxetine but it made her exhausted. Melatonin did nothing either. We can’t afford to pay privately anymore, and please don’t suggest  CAMHS. It’s an 18 month wait list, and they were useless anyway.

She wants to go to university. I don’t know how she’ll integrate. She wants to do A levels at home, but we want her to go to a HF ASD school. She’s refusing to look round or talk about it.

Shes becoming more and more withdrawn and bad tempered. Her sleep is rubbish. She sleeps from about 3am until 2pm. Any attempts to change this are met with refusal.

Just lately l feel so angry I’m struggling to speak to her. She was a friendly chatty child. I know this was masking, but she’s fallen so far l feel so lost, bewildered and depressed, we’ve got a the help but she just won’t engage.

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  • Hi, A levels at home might be fine. One of our daughters did distance learning courses and she loved the autonomy. The tutors provided as part of the course who mark some essays were really supportive. She got high marks, went to uni and later achieved a Masters. Another daughter did A levels at school and it was a bit of a nightmare. She went to uni but we felt her confidence had been knocked.

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  • Hi, A levels at home might be fine. One of our daughters did distance learning courses and she loved the autonomy. The tutors provided as part of the course who mark some essays were really supportive. She got high marks, went to uni and later achieved a Masters. Another daughter did A levels at school and it was a bit of a nightmare. She went to uni but we felt her confidence had been knocked.

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