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special or mainstream school for HF

wood36

Hi,

My 10 yr son has HF ASD. Academically very bright but other developmental domains are far too behind. He has not yet finished toileting training (he needs a nappy for his poo), still needs 2 adults to get him ready e.g. changing, brushing teeth etc. He can speak but not much verbal communication going on with his peers (he can response but not initiates conversation ). His severe anxiety is causing trouble all aspect of his life.

He is now in Year 6. Naturally I need to think about his secondary school. The LA told me he is too clever to go to a special school However, I am really concern that he may not be able to cope with a mainstream secondary school, due to his extremely poor social/communication skills and severe anxiety.

 If he goes to a special school, I am sure it will make his school life much easier but there would be a huge compromise academically. But on the other hand, if he goes to a mainstream, his academic well-being will be fulfilled but emotional well-being will be significantly undermined.    

 Wonder if any of you have similar situation with me? Or any of you, who have HF/Asperger, had the similar experience? Which school do you recommend according to your experience?

 Thank you so much for your reading my message and I really appreciate any advice that you could kindly give me. 

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  • Had another bad day ! Our 10 year old son who has autism refused to go to school again.

    We tried reasoning, positive encouragement and blackmail. When these didn't work we took his tv out of his room. We ended up having to restrain him as he lashed out in anger. I phoned the school and informed them our son was adamant he wasn't coming in and they sent out the Welfare Officer and mentioned social services.

    As parents my husband and I feel angry and unsupported. This is the second mainstream school that has excluded our son for aggressive behaviour. We have battled with our son previously to take him in and he has been sent home for lashing out at staff and pupils. We understand the need to safeguard other children and staff but I thought the statement was in place to support individual needs?

    The head refused our application for a placement at this school but her decision was overturned. I feel she has already written our son off as a naughty child . This was confirmed when she asked us if we had considered special school.

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  • Had another bad day ! Our 10 year old son who has autism refused to go to school again.

    We tried reasoning, positive encouragement and blackmail. When these didn't work we took his tv out of his room. We ended up having to restrain him as he lashed out in anger. I phoned the school and informed them our son was adamant he wasn't coming in and they sent out the Welfare Officer and mentioned social services.

    As parents my husband and I feel angry and unsupported. This is the second mainstream school that has excluded our son for aggressive behaviour. We have battled with our son previously to take him in and he has been sent home for lashing out at staff and pupils. We understand the need to safeguard other children and staff but I thought the statement was in place to support individual needs?

    The head refused our application for a placement at this school but her decision was overturned. I feel she has already written our son off as a naughty child . This was confirmed when she asked us if we had considered special school.

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