Hi there
I’m new here and I have 2 autistic children and myself have been diagnosed last year with Asd and adhd. Neurodivergence is new to us but I’ve learned a lot through a lot of research.
My son is 12 and has just started secondary school he’s had ups and downs but generally settling ok he’s extremely shy and sensitive he has a sen passport for school it’s a reasonably small school with 5 classes per year
today during games he was wearing his coat a teacher he didn’t know asked him why he was wearing his coat he took this literally (and is also terrified of speaking to teachers or in public) he also has taken to wearing his coat a lot since leaving primary school
he replied ‘because I’m cold’. The teacher responded with ‘I think what you mean to say was I’m sorry sir and I will take it off straight away’. My son was mortified and upset separately another boy then ran yo behind him and smacked him over the head and said ‘it’s just bants’.
hes at a selective grammar school and they can be quite strict on uniform but my boy wouldn’t have really understood that a coat means he’s breaking the PE uniform code seriously?! I’m not sure why a teacher would need to call attention to it in such a sarcastic way it makes me cross because it’s an old fashioned response designed to belittle or shame
I don’t know whether to raise it or not I don’t want to single him out and I know I would’ve had worse in my school days but surely we should be trying to move things forward I’m feel my disappointed with it as I say, just seems unnecessary and may contribute to others thinking he’s an easy target
would be grateful for any help the Sen team seem good but I’ve no idea of the personality of the other teacher. I suspect this guy might be old school and pettty it could blow up but I don’t want my son to feel he has to just lump it either
thank you for reading. It’s such a struggle to parent when autistic yourself too just never sure I’m reading things right but then I relate to how awful it feels in these sorts of situations
