My son assaulted another child

I don't know wherw to apart with this one. My 12 yo is in his 1st year of mainstream high school. His primary years were horrific with bullying, him retaliating and being excluded from school. Last week, a boy he has previously had issues with resurfaced himself, flooding him about being in his face. My son gave him plenty of warnings to leave him alone, to not get in his face but the boy didn't take any notice at all. On Wednesday my son was sent home from school for threatening to "have" him if he comes near him again. I was told the boy was "scared for him life". The boy was told to stay away from my son and my son was told the same and he made a promise not to attack(the schools words) him) my boy agreed. The following day when my son returned to school the said boy was in his face, following him about and my son told him in a few choice word to do one. Friday arrives and my son is still as high as a kite because this boy after being told to leave him alone has kept doing it. I tried ro bring him down which I managed, well I thought I did. Then the call came to say my son was being excluded as he gave this boy a "beating". Of course its all my son. The school have said they have been told no one seen this boy approach my son it was all one sided. This has always been the way my son has went through school, O this O that is to blame because of his actions.  My son has a dual diagnosis of asd and adhd. I have to attend the school this week and I'm at a loss of what to say or do.

Parents Reply
  • to be fair with the amount of times bullies attacked me in school and got away with it, i doubt they can expell him at all unless it was really really serious... like a hospitalisation of the other kid..

    otherwise schools turn a blind eye all the time to fights. so expelling over a fight makes no sense at all. unless its a better school with higher standards ofcourse... schools i went to allowed kids to smack each other around lol 

Children
  • Sadly it’s conceivable they’re looking for an excuse to get rid of the autistic student over the bully. The autistic student may seem like more of a liability to the school. Also a charming bully may feel more relatable more likable to the teachers that a basically honest but aggravating autistic child.