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Reaction to violence in book

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Hi there. Wonder if anyone has any advice. My son has recently had his diagnosis. He is 11. He doesn’t open up to me a lot about anything, knows he was being assessed for autism but doesn’t want to know what was said.

he recently came to me upset saying he was worried about school because they were going to be starting a new book about the war and he was worried it was going to be violent. He then revealed that the reason he had been sent home from school after being sick on himself a month or so ago was because there was a scene in the book where someone was stabbed and it talked about the blood. He didn’t mention this at the time. He said when they were reading it be started to sweat and feel sick and didn’t make it to the toilet on time. He told us none of this at the time which is concerning, but we are working on building trust and communication around this kind of thing.

i am wondering if anyone had any insight into what’s happened, what this reaction was, and any suggestions on how I can support him. He doesn’t want to be embarrassed by any special treatment at school, but it’s clearly a big worry for him. I am new to all this.

susie 

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  • Is it worth getting a copy of the book and reading it together first at home? You can monitor his reaction as you’re reading it, stop if it gets too much, and would give you a chance to have a discussion together about what’s happening and how it’s making him feel? Nah be a good bonding thing to reassure him he can open up to you about things rather than hiding it.

    I remember being at school and would do anything to fit in and not make a scene so i can imagine the thought of reading it through at school would cause him anxiety, particularly in class which is more likely to make him feel physically ill, also the attention it would cause by running out of class or people knowing he had vomited would have been horrifying to me. If he has read it beforehand and knows what’s coming maybe it will prepare him enough to just act like everyone else on the surface when reading it?

    I know for me, i hate not knowing what’s going to happen. I’m a nightmare at googling the endings to films, tv series and books to prepare myself, so maybe this is also something he struggles with as an autistic person? 

    hope you find a solution :) 

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  • Is it worth getting a copy of the book and reading it together first at home? You can monitor his reaction as you’re reading it, stop if it gets too much, and would give you a chance to have a discussion together about what’s happening and how it’s making him feel? Nah be a good bonding thing to reassure him he can open up to you about things rather than hiding it.

    I remember being at school and would do anything to fit in and not make a scene so i can imagine the thought of reading it through at school would cause him anxiety, particularly in class which is more likely to make him feel physically ill, also the attention it would cause by running out of class or people knowing he had vomited would have been horrifying to me. If he has read it beforehand and knows what’s coming maybe it will prepare him enough to just act like everyone else on the surface when reading it?

    I know for me, i hate not knowing what’s going to happen. I’m a nightmare at googling the endings to films, tv series and books to prepare myself, so maybe this is also something he struggles with as an autistic person? 

    hope you find a solution :) 

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