She wants out

My daughter has come up to me and said she wants out of school. I never thought I'd here her say that. She is in an autism specialist independent school, staffed 2:1. She struggles so much on a daily basis, something going wrong everyday. She is serious about leaving now because she has realised her mental health is not good when she goes and that staff no longer help or understand her. 

She is really scared that if she does leave, the huge change in routine will tip her over the edge, and she will end up doing something stupid. She said this is why she doesn't want to leave school. She also doesn't know what to do because if she leaves, her mental health will be really bad and she won't want to work or help me work or whatnot because she just won't cope. Also having a traumatising time at her last job, it has put her off altogether. I'm worried about how she will cope with her mental health. 

In the meantime she is due back to school next Monday. Her friend has said she will go with her to school on Monday. On Wednesday we have a meeting with the school but we don't know what about. She also said that in school she has pretended to be me, writing letters on what will help her and things like that. I think she prefers to do this way of communication, pretending to be someone else, than saying herself. 

What can help her because we are at a lost? Any ideas we are grateful for. I feel like it's a race against time now. 

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  • She has been mouthing off at me this afternoon. I explained I can't go to the meeting on Wednesday because I have my son with me and she is not happy because she doesn't want the meeting to happen at all and plus it means changing the day which is understandable. She's got so much anger and hate towards the school. Tonight my husband is out fishing, back in the morning so I've got 3 children which 2 have friends over. My middle, 15, has 3 over for the night, not in school tomorrow, my youngest is not in school next week at all, and my eldest, 17 has her friend round who is accompanying her to school. So a house full of 7 kids and a dog. WISH ME LUCK, LOL 

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  • She has been mouthing off at me this afternoon. I explained I can't go to the meeting on Wednesday because I have my son with me and she is not happy because she doesn't want the meeting to happen at all and plus it means changing the day which is understandable. She's got so much anger and hate towards the school. Tonight my husband is out fishing, back in the morning so I've got 3 children which 2 have friends over. My middle, 15, has 3 over for the night, not in school tomorrow, my youngest is not in school next week at all, and my eldest, 17 has her friend round who is accompanying her to school. So a house full of 7 kids and a dog. WISH ME LUCK, LOL 

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