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Hi i feel so bad cos a few times now iv over slept on a school morning and end up half an hour late with my son for school, the days i don't over sleep we r normally about 3 or 4 mins late and i know his head teacher is not happy COs my sons teacher mentioned it when we had a meeting with parent partnership, sometimes its my son not quite ready but most of the time its me, since being a child iv always found it difficult to wake up and difficult to fall asleep at night , no matter how hard i try i always seem to be running late where ever I go, and its really getting me down, i do feel mentally tired as in doing my teaching degree, i work part time , running a home and trying to find answers for my son who is susspected by his paed to have asd , does anyone else struggle with being pn time for school??

  • Thanks intense world, i did the AQ10 form and scored 6 i might wait to see what my sons outcome is first x

  • No problem.

    My situation is a complicated one, and not one that should be used as a benchmark.  It wasn't necessarily a difficulty getting assessed, I badgered my psychologist until she referred me (so didn't go the GP route) and my NHS assessment cited autistic behaviours, (that's the short version) but didn't diagnose me, so I went the private route.  My GP recognises my private diagnosis.  That again, is the short version.  So everyone's experience is different basically, but you are entitled to that assessment.  If you get one organised, post on here again so you know what to do to prepare yourself.

    You just need to do what you need to do for yourself, don't let others put you off.

  • No i didn't complete that form gonna print it off now thankvu so much i just feel like crying cos u understand so well and are helping me thank u xxx

  • Doesn't matter what they think.  You are entitled to an assessment.  Analysing is an Aspie trait!  If your boyfriend doesn't like the way you are then he is not the one for you.  Your GP has to do his job.  It's not about the labels, it's about the needs and what support you need.

  • Thank u intense world what u have said means a lot its so frustrating especially when on one else understands x i will look into it but i just feel like my Dr and my bf will think im a hypercondriac which my bf does say and that i should stop analysis every thing and stop looking for labels but its hard when these type of things affect ur daily life x

  • I think for one thing, you should really pursue an ASC assessment for yourself.  Executive dysfunction(http://eprints.gold.ac.uk/2558/1/Hill_2004_GRO.pdf, as well as sleep problems, are well-known of in ASC.

    If you had your own diagnosis, you would be even more eligible for services and support.  Social services could do an assessment of need on you as a carer of your child (if he had a diagnosis) and adult services could do an assessment of need on you as an adult with a disability.

    This would mean you had extenuating circumstances which would bring a lot more understanding and perhaps relevant support.  Maybe you could get respite or childcare which they could bring your son to school and if you overslept they would be coming to your house to get your son and you'd get woken up.  I can't say for sure you would get this type of thing, but each family is unique and the parent having a disability means that you would be eligible for more.

    Also, you could stop being so hard on yourself.  You are under a lot of strain and pressure.  Trust me I know how this is.  As an adult with Asperger's, which was only diagnosed earlier this year, I have struggled my whole life with being late and being organised and having two children on the spectrum has made things ten times worse.