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Help with adult AS boy

Catfan62

SmileHi there,

I don't really know where to post this, but my problem is how to support him, he is now an adult.  He had to withdraw from uni (an achievement to get there in itself) and now isata loss of what to do with himself.  He has also had help with depression and finds it difficult to motivate himself and go looking for work.  

He feels very uncomfortable about having to sign on, feeling people are more worthy of it than him but worries he is not contributing to the household.  He did have a part time job and also did some work experience, but nothing else has turned up for him.

I'm worried about how to emotionally support him and feel he is just giving up.  I'd be grateful for any help, and am keen to offer advice to parents with AS children too as I've been there and done it.  Thank you 

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  • Longman, thank you for your advice.  He failed most of his 2nd yr modules, despite being given two extenuating circumstances extensions.  He initially took a year out to try to sort out his depression, but during that time admitted to us that the course was not what he expected it to be.  It had to be his choice to withdraw but it took a long time for him to reach that decision.  His college course contained a lot of components that were in the uni course, but due to the current climate the gaming industry is suffering and not so many things available in this country.

    He looks every day for jobs, no luck so far.  I wonder whether he should try a part timecollege course, such as computer programming as he is good at that, with the hope that it could open up other options for him.  Trouble is he doesn't like advice, thinks I'm interfering.

    Barnaby Crumble, I forgot to say another place to look at is Work Choices, on thegov.UK website, they could be useful for you, I'm going to encourage my son to do this, just got to break through his negativity :(

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  • Longman, thank you for your advice.  He failed most of his 2nd yr modules, despite being given two extenuating circumstances extensions.  He initially took a year out to try to sort out his depression, but during that time admitted to us that the course was not what he expected it to be.  It had to be his choice to withdraw but it took a long time for him to reach that decision.  His college course contained a lot of components that were in the uni course, but due to the current climate the gaming industry is suffering and not so many things available in this country.

    He looks every day for jobs, no luck so far.  I wonder whether he should try a part timecollege course, such as computer programming as he is good at that, with the hope that it could open up other options for him.  Trouble is he doesn't like advice, thinks I'm interfering.

    Barnaby Crumble, I forgot to say another place to look at is Work Choices, on thegov.UK website, they could be useful for you, I'm going to encourage my son to do this, just got to break through his negativity :(

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