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Help with adult AS boy

Catfan62

SmileHi there,

I don't really know where to post this, but my problem is how to support him, he is now an adult.  He had to withdraw from uni (an achievement to get there in itself) and now isata loss of what to do with himself.  He has also had help with depression and finds it difficult to motivate himself and go looking for work.  

He feels very uncomfortable about having to sign on, feeling people are more worthy of it than him but worries he is not contributing to the household.  He did have a part time job and also did some work experience, but nothing else has turned up for him.

I'm worried about how to emotionally support him and feel he is just giving up.  I'd be grateful for any help, and am keen to offer advice to parents with AS children too as I've been there and done it.  Thank you 

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  • Hi again,  

    Really nice to hear from you again, it's good to be able to share worries etc.  He was, and still is at times, fearful of things changing but as he got oldr he learnt to adapt.  We live in a small town and up until he went to college, he had never been on a bus, so I went with him on a few dummy runs before he started as he has no sense of direction.

    The biggest challenge was when he started uni, just over 100 miles away.  Being in halls was good as it was opposite the uni, and being "disabled" meant he was able to stay in halls for yr 2 in his old room.  He made some nice friends who looked out for him.  I was fine in his first year but worried somuch 2nd year when he couldn't cope so was glad when he withdrew, I just worry about himnow really.

    It sounds like a good idea for him to help you on your smallholding, my son is fixated about making computer games.  I think I will try to encourage him to do a part time course.  Apart from family I dontvget any support 

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  • Hi again,  

    Really nice to hear from you again, it's good to be able to share worries etc.  He was, and still is at times, fearful of things changing but as he got oldr he learnt to adapt.  We live in a small town and up until he went to college, he had never been on a bus, so I went with him on a few dummy runs before he started as he has no sense of direction.

    The biggest challenge was when he started uni, just over 100 miles away.  Being in halls was good as it was opposite the uni, and being "disabled" meant he was able to stay in halls for yr 2 in his old room.  He made some nice friends who looked out for him.  I was fine in his first year but worried somuch 2nd year when he couldn't cope so was glad when he withdrew, I just worry about himnow really.

    It sounds like a good idea for him to help you on your smallholding, my son is fixated about making computer games.  I think I will try to encourage him to do a part time course.  Apart from family I dontvget any support 

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