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Help with adult AS boy

Catfan62

SmileHi there,

I don't really know where to post this, but my problem is how to support him, he is now an adult.  He had to withdraw from uni (an achievement to get there in itself) and now isata loss of what to do with himself.  He has also had help with depression and finds it difficult to motivate himself and go looking for work.  

He feels very uncomfortable about having to sign on, feeling people are more worthy of it than him but worries he is not contributing to the household.  He did have a part time job and also did some work experience, but nothing else has turned up for him.

I'm worried about how to emotionally support him and feel he is just giving up.  I'd be grateful for any help, and am keen to offer advice to parents with AS children too as I've been there and done it.  Thank you 

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  • Hi, Im in the same boat as you, my son is 16 and going to college but it is becoming very apparent that employment is going to be a big issue, we are trying to be realistic but im sure this will sound like we are being negative, we cant see our son having a job, how ever much he wants one, we dont think he will find something that gives him the support that he needs, we are also really worried about what will happen when his cousins and his sister start to drive, he wants to get a car but its not going to happen, there is a large difference between what he thinks he can do and what he is capable of and it is really frustrating him. It would be good to know if he will mature as he gets older but we are only guided by how he is at the moment and talk of future plans of jobs and driving only make him feel worse. Im worried about depression as well. Sorry Im no help, just wanted to let you know, your not alone xx

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  • Hi, Im in the same boat as you, my son is 16 and going to college but it is becoming very apparent that employment is going to be a big issue, we are trying to be realistic but im sure this will sound like we are being negative, we cant see our son having a job, how ever much he wants one, we dont think he will find something that gives him the support that he needs, we are also really worried about what will happen when his cousins and his sister start to drive, he wants to get a car but its not going to happen, there is a large difference between what he thinks he can do and what he is capable of and it is really frustrating him. It would be good to know if he will mature as he gets older but we are only guided by how he is at the moment and talk of future plans of jobs and driving only make him feel worse. Im worried about depression as well. Sorry Im no help, just wanted to let you know, your not alone xx

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