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He’s to young

Sarah P

Hello I’m new on here and not sure if anything has been posted like this before. But I have 3 young boys my youngest is 2 and although I’ve not had any direct contact with anyone that’s had autism to know the signs I feel like he’s showing signs so I approached my health visitor about it and asked for his 2 year check to be when he’s 2 just incase there delayed as iv got concerns of autism. The health visitor on the phone was like ‘he’s to young to be showing signs of autism but carry on’ as if I’m having her on or something. She actually got me an appointment the next day which I was happy with I got a phone call an hour before the appointment from the person that was doing the assessment and said she couldn’t really do anything I can bring him if I want but she can’t do anything. I insisted on her seeing him even tho she was very reluctant and when she saw him and observed him she agreed that there was somthing so she referred him for speech therapy, paediatrician and I think it was occupational health or somthing like that which was great finally someone took me seriously. A couple of weeks later we get a letter to say he’s been rejected for speech therapy no explanation no wat happens next so I phoned the health visitor again to find out wat was going on so again someone that hasn’t seen my child said I need to wait 6 months to be assessed again because they can grow out of these things. I feel like hitting my head on a break wall has anyone else had these difficulties I just want the support and help he needs. Sorry for the rant xxx

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  • What are the signs you’re picking up on that make you think he has autism?

    And also: don’t panic about a 6 month delay. The truth is that if your son is diagnosed at 2 or 3 he still probably won’t get much in terms of help or support. A diagnosis is helpful and you’re  right to look into that - but your son won’t be missing out on much if the diagnosed is delayed a little at this point. In the meantime do your research about autism (in children of your son’s particularly) - because knowledge is power. Don’t panic though. Concentrate on meeting your son’s needs right now - diagnosis or no diagnosis. 

  • in reply to Kate Kestrel

    Thank you so much iv read all ur comments and I think you’re right I did say to my husband even if he had the speech therapy now he wouldn’t engage with it anyway. I think I just needed reassurance that I’m doing everything I can for him and just keep pushing for help in the future. Thank you I really do appreciate it.

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  • in reply to Kate Kestrel

    Thank you so much iv read all ur comments and I think you’re right I did say to my husband even if he had the speech therapy now he wouldn’t engage with it anyway. I think I just needed reassurance that I’m doing everything I can for him and just keep pushing for help in the future. Thank you I really do appreciate it.

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  • in reply to Sarah P

    You’re obviously an intuitive and loving mother and he’s lucky to have you :) 

    With you on his side your son has a bright future ahead - whatever struggles he might face along the way he’ll have your constant support, and he’ll be ok x 

    My son’s are both adults now and they are the greatest blessing I could ever have wished for. The fact that they’re autistic has never made me any less proud and privileged to be their mother. Actually I think it’s made me even more proud - because they’ve faced so many challenges and always worked so hard to keep going, and be good, kind, loving people, no matter how difficult life seemed at times. I envy you for having all that ahead of you - every year is precious and I wish I could go back and do it all again!