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Out of School Club

Amanda72

Hi, Just looking for some advice or words of wisdom. My son is 8 and has ASD, he is pretty high funtioning and as such needs minimal support in school. Many of his difficuties are at playtime/lunchtime etc but the school are working on this.

Both my husband and I work full time and my son goes in before and after school club. He has now been excluded twice from the club with little notice as his behaviour was unacceptable and put other children at risk of injury etc. School can't intervene as out of school is run separately. I feel at the end of my tether with the situation and am on pins in case he plays up again and gets excluded.

He is clearly struggling and when he goes into a meltdown he does tend to run off or can just lose it and throw things around. I know that all behaviour is communication but if I'm not there and they are not watching him then they may well be missing the cues. I feel trapped in a helpless situation and totally at the mercy of the woman who runs the club and who will just phone me and say she's not going to accept him for the rest of the week etc.

 

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  • A "ticking timebomb" and aged 8 he threw a chair. What kind of chair and how far? It sounds to me, at this remote distance, as if they are engaged in constructive exclusion.

    Getting other parents concerned depends how it was reported back. Did someone get hurt by the chair and tell their parents. Or has the organiser told all the other parents there's an issue.

    Meltdowns are characteristic with autism so why are they not providing him an opportunity to get annoyed in private, instead of leaving him in the thick of it?

    This isn't an issue for CAMHS - its a matter to raise with the education authority. The out-of-school club took him on knowing his ASC status - if they weren't competent to deal with it that's their liability.

    Don't be fobbed off.

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  • A "ticking timebomb" and aged 8 he threw a chair. What kind of chair and how far? It sounds to me, at this remote distance, as if they are engaged in constructive exclusion.

    Getting other parents concerned depends how it was reported back. Did someone get hurt by the chair and tell their parents. Or has the organiser told all the other parents there's an issue.

    Meltdowns are characteristic with autism so why are they not providing him an opportunity to get annoyed in private, instead of leaving him in the thick of it?

    This isn't an issue for CAMHS - its a matter to raise with the education authority. The out-of-school club took him on knowing his ASC status - if they weren't competent to deal with it that's their liability.

    Don't be fobbed off.

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