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Out of School Club

Amanda72

Hi, Just looking for some advice or words of wisdom. My son is 8 and has ASD, he is pretty high funtioning and as such needs minimal support in school. Many of his difficuties are at playtime/lunchtime etc but the school are working on this.

Both my husband and I work full time and my son goes in before and after school club. He has now been excluded twice from the club with little notice as his behaviour was unacceptable and put other children at risk of injury etc. School can't intervene as out of school is run separately. I feel at the end of my tether with the situation and am on pins in case he plays up again and gets excluded.

He is clearly struggling and when he goes into a meltdown he does tend to run off or can just lose it and throw things around. I know that all behaviour is communication but if I'm not there and they are not watching him then they may well be missing the cues. I feel trapped in a helpless situation and totally at the mercy of the woman who runs the club and who will just phone me and say she's not going to accept him for the rest of the week etc.

 

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  • Hi, I had a meeting today with out of school and also with the SEN from school. Max has been excluded from out of school for the rest of the week. They feel he is a "ticking timebomb" and out of an obligation to the other children's safety he is excluded. He has lashed out pushed and thrown a chair and children are now scared of him and there have been significant complaints from parents.

    He will be eased back into it from next week but evenings only and then decide about the mornings after a week of evenings.

    I am seeing someone from CAMHS next Monday but to be honest they have been crap so far, so am not holing my breath. I do think one more incident from max and he will be permanently excluded, so am wondering whether to start to look for alternatives and jump before I'm pushed so to speak.

     

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  • Hi, I had a meeting today with out of school and also with the SEN from school. Max has been excluded from out of school for the rest of the week. They feel he is a "ticking timebomb" and out of an obligation to the other children's safety he is excluded. He has lashed out pushed and thrown a chair and children are now scared of him and there have been significant complaints from parents.

    He will be eased back into it from next week but evenings only and then decide about the mornings after a week of evenings.

    I am seeing someone from CAMHS next Monday but to be honest they have been crap so far, so am not holing my breath. I do think one more incident from max and he will be permanently excluded, so am wondering whether to start to look for alternatives and jump before I'm pushed so to speak.

     

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