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Out of School Club

Amanda72

Hi, Just looking for some advice or words of wisdom. My son is 8 and has ASD, he is pretty high funtioning and as such needs minimal support in school. Many of his difficuties are at playtime/lunchtime etc but the school are working on this.

Both my husband and I work full time and my son goes in before and after school club. He has now been excluded twice from the club with little notice as his behaviour was unacceptable and put other children at risk of injury etc. School can't intervene as out of school is run separately. I feel at the end of my tether with the situation and am on pins in case he plays up again and gets excluded.

He is clearly struggling and when he goes into a meltdown he does tend to run off or can just lose it and throw things around. I know that all behaviour is communication but if I'm not there and they are not watching him then they may well be missing the cues. I feel trapped in a helpless situation and totally at the mercy of the woman who runs the club and who will just phone me and say she's not going to accept him for the rest of the week etc.

 

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  • Thank you for your response, yes they were fully aware of his diagnosis. I think in some ways the fact that he is seen to be putting the other children "at risk" by his behaviour is the ammunition she is using. It does seem on reflection that the duty of care seems to lie more with the other children than with Max.

    I do understand to an extent but it does rather seem to have landed on my lap as a problem I need to resolve. Which is all well and good but how am I supposed to know what has triggered his meltdown? He has got an identified quiet area but I think at the moment he just blows up too quick, his coping strategies are pretty much fight or flight and I mean that literally, if he's not wrecking something, he's climbing a fence or off out of a fire exit.

     

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  • Thank you for your response, yes they were fully aware of his diagnosis. I think in some ways the fact that he is seen to be putting the other children "at risk" by his behaviour is the ammunition she is using. It does seem on reflection that the duty of care seems to lie more with the other children than with Max.

    I do understand to an extent but it does rather seem to have landed on my lap as a problem I need to resolve. Which is all well and good but how am I supposed to know what has triggered his meltdown? He has got an identified quiet area but I think at the moment he just blows up too quick, his coping strategies are pretty much fight or flight and I mean that literally, if he's not wrecking something, he's climbing a fence or off out of a fire exit.

     

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