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aspergers and gender dysmorphia

markjulips

Hi - I have a 31year old son whom I think may have a mild form Aspergers but has never been diagnosed as it never entered our heads before my neice started having "problems" with her young son and he was diagnosed with autism (which made us do a lot of reading and research with her).  My son has an extremely high IQ and always been good at mathematics and computer programming and has always had obsessions in the past which have always fizzled out when he finds another.  He finds it extremely difficult to make friends, keep a job and has always had relationships with girls but when they end he gets depressed and suicidal.

Last year he revealed he has gender dysmorphia since having counselling sessions after when a psychologist suggested his failed relationships could be because he feels uncomfortable in his male role and I am concerned that this may be yet another obsession which will be irreversible if he does become a woman.  He has now been gioven the go-ahead to take hormones after 4 hours of specialist couselling and 1 seesion with a specialist psychiatrist.

Have any other parents been through this sort of thing or do they think I am just clutching at straws and just watch him go ahead?

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  • I am just a parent, like most others, who loves my children and I have done the best I could.  It was difficult, and I know that there were days when I just had too much to cope with and was not the ideal Mum. We all tried very hard not to upset him, and had to be careful how we spoke, the tone of our voice, or even a look.  We had family discussions as to how we could help him to be more relaxed and happy.  All of us loved him, and were concerned about him.

    My memories are of my adorable baby, my little boy, and as a man for many years until I last saw him. 

    He is almost 50 and has said that he never wants to see me again.  I have the rest of my family to consider too, and they do not want a return to all the disruption when it helps no-one.

    I have never stopped caring for him or thinking about him.

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  • I am just a parent, like most others, who loves my children and I have done the best I could.  It was difficult, and I know that there were days when I just had too much to cope with and was not the ideal Mum. We all tried very hard not to upset him, and had to be careful how we spoke, the tone of our voice, or even a look.  We had family discussions as to how we could help him to be more relaxed and happy.  All of us loved him, and were concerned about him.

    My memories are of my adorable baby, my little boy, and as a man for many years until I last saw him. 

    He is almost 50 and has said that he never wants to see me again.  I have the rest of my family to consider too, and they do not want a return to all the disruption when it helps no-one.

    I have never stopped caring for him or thinking about him.

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