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aspergers and gender dysmorphia

markjulips

Hi - I have a 31year old son whom I think may have a mild form Aspergers but has never been diagnosed as it never entered our heads before my neice started having "problems" with her young son and he was diagnosed with autism (which made us do a lot of reading and research with her).  My son has an extremely high IQ and always been good at mathematics and computer programming and has always had obsessions in the past which have always fizzled out when he finds another.  He finds it extremely difficult to make friends, keep a job and has always had relationships with girls but when they end he gets depressed and suicidal.

Last year he revealed he has gender dysmorphia since having counselling sessions after when a psychologist suggested his failed relationships could be because he feels uncomfortable in his male role and I am concerned that this may be yet another obsession which will be irreversible if he does become a woman.  He has now been gioven the go-ahead to take hormones after 4 hours of specialist couselling and 1 seesion with a specialist psychiatrist.

Have any other parents been through this sort of thing or do they think I am just clutching at straws and just watch him go ahead?

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  • Hi Bunnybear,

    You weren't rambling at all. If there is some way of communicating directly I would definitiely be up for that. You seem to be voicing the same worries that I have. I support my child unconditionally, as I have her siblings.  I tried to word my original post carefully because I did not want to offend or upset anyone by seeming to sideline something that they feel very strongly about. (Sorry about the wording there, I know what I want to say I just can't formulate it into a coherent sentence).  

    I've sought support from LGBT support groups, but when I talked to the other parents, their story did not resonate with ours.  The volnteers were people who were either going through or already had gone through the transition.  I've spoken to a volunteer from another support group who said, after talking to me for 5 minutes that her gut reaction was that my child was transgender because it wasn't something that people went into lightly, I'm not saying that they do.

    It feels as if,when I am talking to someone who is transitioning or has already transitioned that they feel the need to defend themselves.  I am not against transgender, I'm not against my daughter being transgender, if that is the right path for her.  The problem is I don't think it is, and this is not through any homophobic bigoted mindset.  It is just simply that she acts like a girl. She reacts like a girl.  Her best friends are girl.  So quite frankly, my heads jangled.

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  • Hi Bunnybear,

    You weren't rambling at all. If there is some way of communicating directly I would definitiely be up for that. You seem to be voicing the same worries that I have. I support my child unconditionally, as I have her siblings.  I tried to word my original post carefully because I did not want to offend or upset anyone by seeming to sideline something that they feel very strongly about. (Sorry about the wording there, I know what I want to say I just can't formulate it into a coherent sentence).  

    I've sought support from LGBT support groups, but when I talked to the other parents, their story did not resonate with ours.  The volnteers were people who were either going through or already had gone through the transition.  I've spoken to a volunteer from another support group who said, after talking to me for 5 minutes that her gut reaction was that my child was transgender because it wasn't something that people went into lightly, I'm not saying that they do.

    It feels as if,when I am talking to someone who is transitioning or has already transitioned that they feel the need to defend themselves.  I am not against transgender, I'm not against my daughter being transgender, if that is the right path for her.  The problem is I don't think it is, and this is not through any homophobic bigoted mindset.  It is just simply that she acts like a girl. She reacts like a girl.  Her best friends are girl.  So quite frankly, my heads jangled.

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