aspergers and gender dysmorphia

Hello bunnybear & welcome,

I'm not sure if my ramblings will make ense, but here goes.

    Those on the spectrum have to come to terms with the fact that they might have the condition, in their own time. Sadly, their is little you can do to highlight something others aren't willing or indeed able to accept. Couple this with some of the ignorance and social stigma attached to any form of 'diffference' in society and it drives these issues further underground. As a society I guess we are just not their yet.

In reading what I have on the subject and through watching a few videos, it seems some of those on the spectrum don't really see gender as an issue when looking for a partner, however, others see their own 'current gender' as the reason for their unhappiness. I guess it's hard to appreciate how much that impacts an individual, unless you experience it yourself.

In a world where acceptance is often deeply lacking however, finding a tribe to which you belong, can be a lifeline to many who feel finally understood or embraced by others that have endured similar rejection issues.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QiUhlvOpqAU

I'm a late diagnosed adult with ASD but, as an individual, I've always been very accepting of others and their differences. Creed, colour, gender have never presented barriers for me. So when my son explained how he felt to me, it was no surprize, however, knowing what I know now, and having done the research into my own families history, I can see that theirs a chance that changing one element of one's self, will not necessarily change everything for an individual and that can lead to further disappointment at a later date.

Discovering I had ASD has been way more lifechanging than I could of expected. I'm no longer singlely a Dyslexic, Dyspraxic or Asthmatic individually. I'm an ASPIE and these things are collectively are the entirity of my particular ASD profile. My concerns lie in that others, like me, just see their unhappiness or depression as being causal because of only one element of their lives. If I was a girl/boy, things would be different! It's seldom that simplistic.

As a parent, my job is to nuture and protect my children. Any surgical proceedures are difficult for me to imagine, yet you have to weigh up an individuals mental well-being and the wider issues that might be at play, which despite the apparent obviousness, few of us see.

Women on the spectrum have a tendancy to mask their emotions or feelings very well and for long periods and this does make diagnosis difficult. Depression can often follow as a result of supressing who they feel they really are, but it can also be born from the difficult life experiences they've had in their failure to communicate effectively. I know this was true in my own case, but worrying about our childrens choices, makes little impact on the situation. We can only be their for them.

As much as we as parents want to prevent harm or anguish in our children, we really do have to let our offspring find their own path in life. Accepting difference is the moto of NAS. I guess, until that's achieve, many on the specrtum or otherwise,will struggle.

Greater dialogue should be encouraged here. I wish more would express their contrasting views and opinions.

Take Care

Coogybear

Hello bunnybear & welcome,

I'm not sure if my ramblings will make ense, but here goes.

    Those on the spectrum have to come to terms with the fact that they might have the condition, in their own time. Sadly, their is little you can do to highlight something others aren't willing or indeed able to accept. Couple this with some of the ignorance and social stigma attached to any form of 'diffference' in society and it drives these issues further underground. As a society I guess we are just not their yet.

In reading what I have on the subject and through watching a few videos, it seems some of those on the spectrum don't really see gender as an issue when looking for a partner, however, others see their own 'current gender' as the reason for their unhappiness. I guess it's hard to appreciate how much that impacts an individual, unless you experience it yourself.

In a world where acceptance is often deeply lacking however, finding a tribe to which you belong, can be a lifeline to many who feel finally understood or embraced by others that have endured similar rejection issues.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QiUhlvOpqAU

I'm a late diagnosed adult with ASD but, as an individual, I've always been very accepting of others and their differences. Creed, colour, gender have never presented barriers for me. So when my son explained how he felt to me, it was no surprize, however, knowing what I know now, and having done the research into my own families history, I can see that theirs a chance that changing one element of one's self, will not necessarily change everything for an individual and that can lead to further disappointment at a later date.

Discovering I had ASD has been way more lifechanging than I could of expected. I'm no longer singlely a Dyslexic, Dyspraxic or Asthmatic individually. I'm an ASPIE and these things are collectively are the entirity of my particular ASD profile. My concerns lie in that others, like me, just see their unhappiness or depression as being causal because of only one element of their lives. If I was a girl/boy, things would be different! It's seldom that simplistic.

As a parent, my job is to nuture and protect my children. Any surgical proceedures are difficult for me to imagine, yet you have to weigh up an individuals mental well-being and the wider issues that might be at play, which despite the apparent obviousness, few of us see.

Women on the spectrum have a tendancy to mask their emotions or feelings very well and for long periods and this does make diagnosis difficult. Depression can often follow as a result of supressing who they feel they really are, but it can also be born from the difficult life experiences they've had in their failure to communicate effectively. I know this was true in my own case, but worrying about our childrens choices, makes little impact on the situation. We can only be their for them.

As much as we as parents want to prevent harm or anguish in our children, we really do have to let our offspring find their own path in life. Accepting difference is the moto of NAS. I guess, until that's achieve, many on the specrtum or otherwise,will struggle.

Greater dialogue should be encouraged here. I wish more would express their contrasting views and opinions.

Take Care

Coogybear